I was in a relationship with an INTP for 2 and a half years. We have had a wonderful and extremely loving relationship. He was always extremely thoughtful, kind, affectionate, and always there for me. It's been a rough year for me. A year ago my father passed. He was incredibly helpful and loving while I was going through this. I learned to live and grow from this but for the past few months I have been rather depressed and anxious, having panic attacks and being somewhat distant. While our relationship has still been really great (or seemed so) I haven't been as interested in affection, though still showed it as often as I could. I also liked to talk about my thoughts and feelings to sort them out and he would willfully listen and always told me "it's what I'm here for".
He has always seemed so undoubtedly in love with me. Out of the blue last week he sent me a text saying that things didn't feel the same anymore and that he wanted to be blunt and say he doesn't think we should go on seeing each other. He said he doesn't see a future for us together and wished me well. Then he turned off his phone and hasn't spoken to me since despite me trying to reach out.
Does anyone have advice for how to handle this situation? At first I was bargaining with myself thinking he would come back and we would work it out. Now I see he was likely very serious. At this point I just want to talk to him to gain some clarity and peace of mind, since he didn't allow for that. It just seems like such a cruel way to end such a long loving relationship. Do you think he will talk to me again?
He has always seemed so undoubtedly in love with me. Out of the blue last week he sent me a text saying that things didn't feel the same anymore and that he wanted to be blunt and say he doesn't think we should go on seeing each other. He said he doesn't see a future for us together and wished me well. Then he turned off his phone and hasn't spoken to me since despite me trying to reach out.
Does anyone have advice for how to handle this situation? At first I was bargaining with myself thinking he would come back and we would work it out. Now I see he was likely very serious. At this point I just want to talk to him to gain some clarity and peace of mind, since he didn't allow for that. It just seems like such a cruel way to end such a long loving relationship. Do you think he will talk to me again?