Mal12345
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Whoah. That doesn't sound like ethical therapy to me. I feel really sorry for that client.
I've known people extremely repressed to the point of feeling no anger, but also expressing an extremely, extremely passive form of aggression. Violating someone to trigger their anger is not ethical. I know a strongly religious woman who was brutally raped, but she insists on forgiving the attacker and she suffers from a lot of passive aggression and control. The point is that even if the therapist actively harmed such a passive person, it is unlikely to trigger rage when it is suppressed. You have to get at the root of why that person fears anger so much. They need to feel safety not violation. It is safety that will enable the rage to come through. It is suppressed typically out of fear, so adding fear will further suppress it.
I'm sorry you've dealt with difficulties as well. I'm also upset about the treatment of your friend with the suppressed anger.
Edit: The therapist should lose their license. If that isn't something you can pursue, I hope your friend can at least find a different therapist. That is a serious offense that was committed with the pillow.
It was a long time ago. I think she said that the therapist was at her wits end dealing with a case of repression so profound. I don't know how passive-aggressive she was though. But I do know that she expressed emotions somatically. If something happened that would bring out emotion she would immediately get a headache. The purpose of the headache was to block the unwanted emotion. I saw her do that quite a few times so it was pretty obvious what was happening. I didn't think anything of it the first time I saw her grab her head in sudden pain. But over the months I spotted a pattern where she would react to something upsetting by immediately getting a headache.