Yes. I'm not sure if I'm an NT or not, but this is an area in my life that I've definitely found challenging, especially when compared to other female friends. When I was younger I thought of it as more having to do with general awkwardness/shyness and a lack of confidence, but as I’ve gotten older and become more comfortable with myself (making social interactions easier), I do notice that I seem to have less of a focus on relationships than other women I know. I’m very much generalizing here, but I’ve noticed that many have viewed relationships (and marriage) as a kind of end goal in life; a point at which they’ve finally “made it†and become more legitimate as a person. And when viewed this way, relationships can become something that is strived for at all costs, where red flags are ignored because the relationship and what it represents becomes more important than the reality of the situation.
At the root of this “striving for†seems to be a fear of ending up alone and lonely in life, and while I certainly don’t want to feel these things either, I do seem to have a higher tolerance for being on my own, and have tended to focus more on exploring my own interests and doing my own thing. I’ve been less interested in actively dating (e.g. using apps or other websites, taking numbers while out at bars) and tend to be more passive. I’m kind of hoping to just meet someone casually through work, friends, or a mutual hobby. I like the idea of being friends first and then having it morph into a relationship, rather than planning a date and going into to it with all the expectations that go along with that.