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YES; anyone who is more emotional than I am is someone I need to stay away from. A lot of men seem to think that I don't care enough about them ( " I don't show it enough" ) or some prissy argument like that. I'm not comfortable with showing too much emotions, It's how I am wired; I have sentimental streaks. That should be enough for you to know I care for you. I don't need to constantly be showing some kind of grand gesture to reassure you that I like you. They do seem like bottomless pits, it's always not enough.Hahaha, and I find that people tend to say we have problems getting close when really we just have problems being close to them. Especially with ENFPs where thisclose is still not close enough and I'm wondering what is left for me to give... my blood? My issue in dating, especially feelers, is that it feels like I am shoveling more and more into a bottomless pit and I take a step back and look at my life and realize that I can't possibly keep this up for ever. It's just too much sometimes. It just feels that it's never enough.
I cried once in front of someone I thought I was very close to (an ENFP actually). She just sat there stunned and now reminisces constantly (with glee, in front of people) about that really rough time in my life because she never imagined someone as strong as me would ever cry. And that she is so happy that she was the one that saw it because that means that I think of her as a close friend. Wtf? She seriously gets happy talking about it and she wonders why I've slowly been pulling away from her. Wtf? She thinks it's just me putting walls up again. And she's right.
Your friend sounds like an oblivious idiot. She seems very happy and overjoyed with the fact that you were comfortable and trusted her enough to make that choice, yet she doesn't realize the irony of her opening her mouth like that. one of my best friends, also an ENFP, behaves that way too; I usually threaten her when stuff like that happens, she knows ahead of time to keep her mouth shut.
yes I don't know why that is. I think people are attracted to dependency. When they know they can rely on someone and they wont fail them, they will usually attempt to take advantage of it.I don't even ask for help anymore. And it pisses me off when people ask me to do stuff that I know they are perfectly capable of doing themselves.
I don't know what it is that I do that turns them into helpless incompetents. That shit is annoying!
Or they know the efficiency/quality of your work is better than theirs, because you are a harder worker.
Either way, they will try to benefit some how.
Sometimes it's not so bad, in that they acutally need help, and it's no problem, I'm willing to help.
But when it's requires the smallest amount of competence, and they still have the nerve to ask me to do it, thats when you know they're just lazy opportunists.