I am ixtp and my friend's girlfriends hate me because I do not conform to social norms and because I don't suppress my own wishes to please the girls.
It's worth mentioning that in this country if you don't kiss EVERY FUCKING ONE in the cheek EVERY FUCKING TIME he comes and leaves, and the person in question happens to be an F and/or an SJ, she will hate you. It is also expected that you make chitchat with everyone everytime etc.
My girlfriend also hates me because I do not call her every 5 mins (like my friends do with their girls), and because I do not give attention to her when I'm with my friends.
When in the company of my friends + their girlfriends, I am embarassed because I know that the women hate me for the aforementioned reasons, and I know that I don't give a damn about it but I also know that ignoring the problem won't do any good (and the girls -damn them- will probably talk bad of me with my friends in private)
These issues have recently come to light because I started to introduce my girlfriend to my circle of friends. When I'm with HER friends, I am in "fake mode" and I seem to be widely accepted. This happened because I basically don't care a lot about interacting with my girlfriend's friends, so I can concentrate on faking social norms with them and being nice to the feelers.
When I'm with my friends it's a whole another story, because we usually WOULD have something interesting to do or talk about and so I don't WANT to be interrupted and sidetracked by the women (who, in my eyes, sabotage my attempts at having decent male activities with my friends.)
If all this seems silly and idiot, I apologize in advance.
It's worth mentioning that in this country if you don't kiss EVERY FUCKING ONE in the cheek EVERY FUCKING TIME he comes and leaves, and the person in question happens to be an F and/or an SJ, she will hate you. It is also expected that you make chitchat with everyone everytime etc.
My girlfriend also hates me because I do not call her every 5 mins (like my friends do with their girls), and because I do not give attention to her when I'm with my friends.
When in the company of my friends + their girlfriends, I am embarassed because I know that the women hate me for the aforementioned reasons, and I know that I don't give a damn about it but I also know that ignoring the problem won't do any good (and the girls -damn them- will probably talk bad of me with my friends in private)
These issues have recently come to light because I started to introduce my girlfriend to my circle of friends. When I'm with HER friends, I am in "fake mode" and I seem to be widely accepted. This happened because I basically don't care a lot about interacting with my girlfriend's friends, so I can concentrate on faking social norms with them and being nice to the feelers.
When I'm with my friends it's a whole another story, because we usually WOULD have something interesting to do or talk about and so I don't WANT to be interrupted and sidetracked by the women (who, in my eyes, sabotage my attempts at having decent male activities with my friends.)
If all this seems silly and idiot, I apologize in advance.