I totally agree with the speaking up part. As a ESFJ, I truly value peace in ALL situations, and when it's really necessary to state my needs, I literally forget about them because I place so much importance on the harmony because without that peace, I absolutely cannot function and then it's just emotional overload for everyone. I really admire that I am comfortable expressing emotion because I know that it's very hard for a lot of people to do so.
[MENTION=16139]Honor[/MENTION], I'm not sure how many ESFJs I've spoken to in my lifetime (we all love socializing so it's like russian roulette when we really nail another ESFJ in front of us), but from my personal experience speaking to a lot of SJs in my life we all have one thing in common: we all have this pain that we keep inside of us (and the scary part about that is that is what drives us in life.. not very healthy), and we connect on that level of empathy. Us SJs have experienced something that affects us (whether it's directly or directly at someone else close to us like family members) and this is why we feel that it is our "duty" to change the world so no one has to feel what we feel and our life runs a lot more smoothly and comfortably.
A lot of SJs really do care about others wayyyy too much. We care about our world wayyyy too much. We wanna control it and mold it to our personal values so no one has to feel alone, no one has to feel sad, no one has to feel pain, no one has to feel ugly (I personally hate feeling ugly).
With me, I get angry when taken out of my comfort zone and I noticed a lot of us xSFJs don't really like challenges because when we have grown up with morals, it's like a slap to our face that we really don't get it or when we get asked to explain our own morales, we get frustrated that most people don't understand the basic concept in the first place (idk if that sounded very logical).
Idk, I don't believe ESFJs are really going to fulfill their potential if they don't challenge themselves to go outside of the box and their comfort zone. I find it very rewarding, which is why I'm here so I can get a better understanding of the other 15 types and maybe I can help change the world too