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I identify with ENTJ. I love to debate, inefficiency drives me crazy, I have a strong moral code that I force myself to uphold, I usually expect those around me to believe like I do, and when they dont I tend to argue. I am strong willed and I enjoy a challenge, even though it drives me crazy sometimes. I dont mind criticism, and I actually respect it when a person tells me something to my face about how am I or what I've done, as long as there is a solid basis for it. (even though I grind my teeth and stare them down while they do) The only people who can hurt me are the people I am closest too and who I respect tremendously, and there aren't a lot of them.
Here is where the confusion for me comes in. I cry. Almost everything I have read on ENTJs say they dont cry. Well I do when someone I really care about hurts me or disappoints me. Mostly when they disappoint me in their behavior towards me. I feel like I sometimes do it because I want to show them they have hurt me, kind of like to make them think what kind of a horrible thing they did, because I feel like if I dont cry they think what they've done is acceptable. Which sounds so stupid, but it works for me. I guess I've learned that crying is the only way to show people that you are hurt and I automatically do it now when I am hurt, even though I hate it and I dont want to cry. Its not like full blown weeping, just a tear or two and just lots of anger and yelling mostly. They aren't sad tears, but angry tears. (and it only happens when I argue with someone I care about, which is like a few times through the year)
And another thing I've read says that ENTJ's dont care for the emotions of others, and I feel that I do when its someone I care about. I am never cold to them because I dont want to hurt them. And even to outsiders, like people in the workplace or strangers on the street, even though I dont give a crap about their weekend or what their kids were doing last night or how wonderful their meal was, I still smile and pretend I care. I feel like I do that because I dont want to hurt people or push them away from me if they ever need me. Even though when it does happen, and I know people dislike me or even talk shit about me, I dont care and even feel "happy" having enemies... I will though, go up to that person and demand to know what their problem is with me.
When I do think that people need me or my help, I do not act like nurturing, kind mother hen who coddles and soothes. I am very straight up and to the point when I see someone is going through a tough time or needs help. My friends or sisters would come crying to me or depressed about something and I would have that whole "wake up and take a good hard look at your life" vibe, telling them both the positives and the negatives and make sure they realize who they are and what they are capable of. It works, and even though I sound like an ass, I am very caring about the people who come to me for help or advice. Which I think sounds too much like an ENFJ.
Anyway, I am writing this at work so excuse me if the flow of this post is all wrong. If you have any questions or opinions, please let me know! Which MBTI type do I sound more like to you?
Here is where the confusion for me comes in. I cry. Almost everything I have read on ENTJs say they dont cry. Well I do when someone I really care about hurts me or disappoints me. Mostly when they disappoint me in their behavior towards me. I feel like I sometimes do it because I want to show them they have hurt me, kind of like to make them think what kind of a horrible thing they did, because I feel like if I dont cry they think what they've done is acceptable. Which sounds so stupid, but it works for me. I guess I've learned that crying is the only way to show people that you are hurt and I automatically do it now when I am hurt, even though I hate it and I dont want to cry. Its not like full blown weeping, just a tear or two and just lots of anger and yelling mostly. They aren't sad tears, but angry tears. (and it only happens when I argue with someone I care about, which is like a few times through the year)
And another thing I've read says that ENTJ's dont care for the emotions of others, and I feel that I do when its someone I care about. I am never cold to them because I dont want to hurt them. And even to outsiders, like people in the workplace or strangers on the street, even though I dont give a crap about their weekend or what their kids were doing last night or how wonderful their meal was, I still smile and pretend I care. I feel like I do that because I dont want to hurt people or push them away from me if they ever need me. Even though when it does happen, and I know people dislike me or even talk shit about me, I dont care and even feel "happy" having enemies... I will though, go up to that person and demand to know what their problem is with me.
When I do think that people need me or my help, I do not act like nurturing, kind mother hen who coddles and soothes. I am very straight up and to the point when I see someone is going through a tough time or needs help. My friends or sisters would come crying to me or depressed about something and I would have that whole "wake up and take a good hard look at your life" vibe, telling them both the positives and the negatives and make sure they realize who they are and what they are capable of. It works, and even though I sound like an ass, I am very caring about the people who come to me for help or advice. Which I think sounds too much like an ENFJ.
Anyway, I am writing this at work so excuse me if the flow of this post is all wrong. If you have any questions or opinions, please let me know! Which MBTI type do I sound more like to you?
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