Wow, I've gotten the "people are boring" vibe from an ENFP before, but that didnt stop them from over-the-top socially engaging everyone.
Do you feel you always need to be in a relationship with someone? Why so? For instance, when you get out of a relationship, do you soon after involve yourself in another one? What need is it that being with someone fulfills (even if you recognize that someone will only be a temporary part of your life)?
I dunno, I just like the companionship and camaraderie of a relationship. It's like your adventuring buddy, you gotta have an adventuring buddy (or adventuring buddies, I mean you gotta have a fleshed out party /nerd)
I find a lot of people boring... but that doesn't prevent me from talking to them. I had never really thought about it this way before, but it's true. I guess there's a big difference in me talking to someone (easy) and me sharing my "true" self with someone (difficult and I'm very reluctant to do this).
I think that ENFPs have a wide variety of behaviors on this subject. And, I'm guessing you think that ENFPs hop into a new relationship as soon as they leave an old one? I don't think this is true for all ENFPs. We tend to be polarized: either lots of hopping around or sort of INFJ-y.... by this I mean very cautious about taking the plunge but once they're in, they are IN for the long haul and very loyal. I fall into this second category.
For example, I have NEVER been one to casually date or be wishy washy in my romantic feelings about someone. I'm either not interested or fully engrossed. And, back to my first comment, I am very, very, very picky. Most potential suitors bore me. I've gotta find a guy reallllly interesting to even dally with the idea of dating him.
But I think to the casual observer it might be hard to differentiate between my casual and serious interest in someone. And thus it might appear I flit around aimlessly chatting people up. Not so. I know exactly what I'm doing. I'm being kind and friendly to everyone around me... and watching and learning about them, too.
So how does the non-ENFP tell the difference? I think that ENFP Saltine said it so well in this post when she said, "I personally bond through vulnerability..." That's how to know if an ENFP is realllllly interested in you. Does she/he bare her soul to you? Not just funny comments about her/his banal and absurd life, but really deep and personal stuff. <Sigh.> I take that risk with very few indeed.
my ENFP ex-boyfriend was exactly like me until he found one pretty all-consuming passion.
Maybe I am wrong, but I have a feeling ENFPs can't stand to be single for very long (both men and women).
So out of pure curiosity and desire to debunk or confirm my hunch I'd like to ask you all:
What's the longest you've stayed single (including short-lived relationships and/or not-so-serious ones)?
Do you feel you always need to be in a relationship with someone? Why so? For instance, when you get out of a relationship, do you soon after involve yourself in another one? What need is it that being with someone fulfills (even if you recognize that someone will only be a temporary part of your life)?
what do you mean by that?
He found a girl that he loves so completely that, if they broke up, I think it would take him years to get over her enough to date anyone else. He wouldn't be able to compartmentalize his feelings for her, and dating anyone else would feel like a poor substitute. It's definitely a new development for him. His attitude toward every previous relationship (including ours) was a sort of 'let's see where this goes' easy-going-ness.
this thread would be better (science!) with enneagram + instinctual subtype.