HotpinkHeatwave
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I do not show strong emotions openly. I have a hard time expressing some emotions in general (anger, sadness).
But, when the time does come for me to be very upset, or very sad, I go into 'Shutdown Mode'.
I have been told this twice, both by thinkers. (Surprisingly?)
Here is an example,
I was with a bunch of friends. One of them being a very, very close friend of mine. Something happened that really upset this close friend, and therefore, I was really upset too. I had been having a very bad weekend prior to that, so I was already feeling a little emotional.. And suddenly, I just broke down and started bawling. Remember, this is RARE. My friend's pain was the tipping point.
So, I cried for about and hour, in which multiple people (three, including my ENTJ boyfriend) tried talking to me. I refused to talk back. Not because I didn't want to, but because I just couldn't. I also absolutely hated the fact that I was crying where I could be found.
Basically, I bowed my head to hide my face, and sobbed. Sounds lame, but that's what happened.
The next day, my boyfriend described it as 'Ultimate Lockdown Mode'. I agreed. That is exactly what it was.
Is this common for ENFPs? Or NFs in general? I'm assuming it has very much to do with Fi. True?
But, when the time does come for me to be very upset, or very sad, I go into 'Shutdown Mode'.
I have been told this twice, both by thinkers. (Surprisingly?)
Here is an example,
I was with a bunch of friends. One of them being a very, very close friend of mine. Something happened that really upset this close friend, and therefore, I was really upset too. I had been having a very bad weekend prior to that, so I was already feeling a little emotional.. And suddenly, I just broke down and started bawling. Remember, this is RARE. My friend's pain was the tipping point.
So, I cried for about and hour, in which multiple people (three, including my ENTJ boyfriend) tried talking to me. I refused to talk back. Not because I didn't want to, but because I just couldn't. I also absolutely hated the fact that I was crying where I could be found.
Basically, I bowed my head to hide my face, and sobbed. Sounds lame, but that's what happened.
The next day, my boyfriend described it as 'Ultimate Lockdown Mode'. I agreed. That is exactly what it was.
Is this common for ENFPs? Or NFs in general? I'm assuming it has very much to do with Fi. True?