alovestorm
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- INTP
Is it common for ENFP's to be attracted to INTJs in so long as they look "perfect" to the ENFP? Is the INTJ's goal for self-perfection what attracts ENFPs?
I dated an ENFP, who gradually became my harshest critic after we were not dating. He disliked that I was changing, taking risks, and moving forward (dating etc) which I understand to a certain extent because maybe he was jealous, insecure etc. But overall, it hurt me deeply to see his clear inability to respect the fact that I was human, needed to grow up on my own and was prone to discovering my own faults and make mistakes. For this ENFP I was "his perfect girl" now imperfect, which bothers the deepest part of me no matter how much I try to ignore it.
I dated an ENFP, who gradually became my harshest critic after we were not dating. He disliked that I was changing, taking risks, and moving forward (dating etc) which I understand to a certain extent because maybe he was jealous, insecure etc. But overall, it hurt me deeply to see his clear inability to respect the fact that I was human, needed to grow up on my own and was prone to discovering my own faults and make mistakes. For this ENFP I was "his perfect girl" now imperfect, which bothers the deepest part of me no matter how much I try to ignore it.