TopherRed
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- MBTI Type
- ENFJ
- Enneagram
- 2w3
- Instinctual Variant
- so/sx
So, I've got this ENFP friend who's constantly inventing, or exaggerating storylines of our relationship (she's a friend, sort of a co-worker).
The latest example:
"It's sooo bad that you hate me, Fuzz. People are constantly going around now saying, 'We'd better pray for the prayer team, Bee and Fuzz are at it again," (we co-lead the prayer team for our church).
It's actually pretty funny, so I laugh, but I just know she's probing to see how I'm feeling. The relationship we've established is such where I treat her professionally, yet caring, but in a distant way. Bee has expressed how guys have fallen for her before in ministry and how the only reason she even took this position was because I am about nine years her junior.
I'm basically complying with her wishes by remaining emotionally distant. I wonder if she sees that...
My main question is, is it typical for ENFPs to do the above sort of thing when trying to illicit an emotional response from someone, or is this Bee's own particular brand of manipulation?
Bewildered,
--Fuzz
The latest example:
"It's sooo bad that you hate me, Fuzz. People are constantly going around now saying, 'We'd better pray for the prayer team, Bee and Fuzz are at it again," (we co-lead the prayer team for our church).
It's actually pretty funny, so I laugh, but I just know she's probing to see how I'm feeling. The relationship we've established is such where I treat her professionally, yet caring, but in a distant way. Bee has expressed how guys have fallen for her before in ministry and how the only reason she even took this position was because I am about nine years her junior.
I'm basically complying with her wishes by remaining emotionally distant. I wonder if she sees that...
My main question is, is it typical for ENFPs to do the above sort of thing when trying to illicit an emotional response from someone, or is this Bee's own particular brand of manipulation?
Bewildered,
--Fuzz