I generally attract people that WANT to get their shit together, more often than not.
I have a love/hate relationship with damsels in distress. A part of me LOVES to fix shit. The extrovert in me naturally applies that to people as well. If I can help fix something in someone's life, even if it is as simple as doing a favor.. it is better for me. Then I don't have to tell them I like them and care about them. I can be like "Of course he's my friend, I fixed his tire didn't I?! And I helped him with learning to cook healthy! How can he say I don't care?!"
I sort of communicate through my actions, so it gives me prime opportunity to be emotional in a way I know how and am most comfortable with. It's an amazing exchange.. really truly bailing someone out of a bind, doing a kindness for them in a way they were unable to do themselves.. It does amazing things for the esteem.
But.. The downside to this, is that it wears on me. Anything over an extended period of time. I am naturally annoyed by lazy, apathetic, dispassionate situations where people "want" to get out of the rut they are in but don't REALLY want it because they just don't MOVE towards it. It is taxing to see someone with potential to improve their situation not do so willingly. I'm pretty short tempered with things like depression and anxiety, which I've learned to deal with on my own vs taking it out on the person dealing with that sort of thing, but the annoyance and impatience is there. It's like.. I know I can't blame them for it, but I can't help getting angry about it either. And, of course, it is annoying to see gold advice wasted. /arrogance.
"How do I get my life together?"
BAM! Here's how citizen!
"Oh wow! That sounds awesome!"
Sounds?.. I don't like that word.. it is usually a precursor to--
"Maybe I'll try that.."
--the maybe word.. which usually means..
"But I don't know. I think I'm just too old for school. and I don't like to study."
What starts out as a crusade to get rid of all the villains in a person's life turns into a taxing pile of excuses for why the villains are really not so bad at all. It's like everyone's got Stockholm's Syndrome, and their sub-par life they complain about is their kidnapper.