Krys
New member
- Joined
- Jul 14, 2017
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- MBTI Type
- INFP
- Enneagram
- 5w4
- Instinctual Variant
- so/sx
I do get unpleasant bodily sensations from conflict actually, so i tend to avoid it. Even just listening to other people argue makes me kind of tense. For example, if I'm watching CNN and they start arguing with raised voices and the like, i have to mute it and put on the subtitles. I don't know why but it's really unpleasant for me.
I struggle to deal with it because I tend to give the other person the benefit of the doubt more often than I don't. I'm more likely to lay the blame on myself than others, and I only bring up problems if they are recurring, I have evidence, and I think that the conflict makes "sense", by which I mean I think that I'm not just being sensitive. I also only tend to bring up conflict with people that I care about or --because I must -- people that I work with. I don't really care to bring up problems with other people because an acquaintance hurting my feelings doesn't really matter to me.
I struggle to deal with it because I tend to give the other person the benefit of the doubt more often than I don't. I'm more likely to lay the blame on myself than others, and I only bring up problems if they are recurring, I have evidence, and I think that the conflict makes "sense", by which I mean I think that I'm not just being sensitive. I also only tend to bring up conflict with people that I care about or --because I must -- people that I work with. I don't really care to bring up problems with other people because an acquaintance hurting my feelings doesn't really matter to me.