Questions about how slow an ISTP moves or if this is just a platonic situation.
An ISTP casually asked me to have dinner with him - - we had a great time, he paid and made a comment that he "liked where this was going". He also cemented future plans with me before I left. Since then, we have talked almost every day and seen each other 2-3 times a week (which with our busy schedules, equates to every single time that we have both had any free time). He pays, walks me to my door, etc. but that could all just be a part of how he treats women in general - romantic or platonic.
He has yet to make any sort of move physically beyond giving me a hug upon arrival or departure. He also hasn't brought up anything related to dating verbally - just some of his banter could be considered flirtatious.
From what I've read about ISTPs, they seem to take quite a bit of time to feel out situation and aren't very open emotionally. The lack of affection is the confusing part for me.
I'm just not sure how to tell whether this is strictly platonic or if he is just slowly getting to know me with the intention of being open to it becoming romantic? I feel like a common response might be to just ask him directly - - it has only been a month, so I don't want to appear pushy by doing so? - - I just am curious for any insight from other ISTPs.
An ISTP casually asked me to have dinner with him - - we had a great time, he paid and made a comment that he "liked where this was going". He also cemented future plans with me before I left. Since then, we have talked almost every day and seen each other 2-3 times a week (which with our busy schedules, equates to every single time that we have both had any free time). He pays, walks me to my door, etc. but that could all just be a part of how he treats women in general - romantic or platonic.
He has yet to make any sort of move physically beyond giving me a hug upon arrival or departure. He also hasn't brought up anything related to dating verbally - just some of his banter could be considered flirtatious.
From what I've read about ISTPs, they seem to take quite a bit of time to feel out situation and aren't very open emotionally. The lack of affection is the confusing part for me.
I'm just not sure how to tell whether this is strictly platonic or if he is just slowly getting to know me with the intention of being open to it becoming romantic? I feel like a common response might be to just ask him directly - - it has only been a month, so I don't want to appear pushy by doing so? - - I just am curious for any insight from other ISTPs.