The whole intro summed up my 'issues' quite a bit. I think my age at this point makes me seem un-9-like often - I consciously take the opposite approach now a lot since I know not doing so hurts everyone involved and I could care less now trying to appease those I don't even like at this point; but the whole initial summary was me in a nutshell in romantic relationships especially until fairly recently actually (in the grand scheme of my life). I think the 9 combined with FJ especially meant I had more of a double whammy of waiting waaaay too long in any relationships before bringing things up - and by that point it ended up causing a lot more issues than had it happened earlier - or a breakup would/should have happened way earlier had I not gone to great lengths in 'accommodating'. And, re anger, when on this forum in the early years, when I was almost 30 and hadn't yet entered my 30's, I at that time often posted I didn't relate to anger, it was something I almost never experienced, etc. And now - wow, the past five or so years that's really changed. lol.
Edit: I relate to a fair amount of w8 stuff; but honestly that's again come with age; the things I identify with now weren't the case when younger. I've heard too that one can and will identify with elements of both wings of a given core. The only main thing in the whole video I don't relate to is that I never talk in detail at all, and never had that I recall. But I will say my reason for never talking much is other people DO give cues that are readily observable and that indicate they're not interested. That or, I know for a fact the person won't care a bit so why would I bother with details if I know the person doesn't care? Ha. I am 100% 'accommodating' their preferences by not sharing, BTW, so that I guess is on point with harmonizing. And I actually prefer not to talk at length (due to knowing no one really wants to be an earpiece for a great length of time), I don't have a need to share details. People share details at length with me all the time and I could care less about their details, details are boring or completely unnecessary to most people who aren't truly involved or invested or sharing the same interest.