"I too have battled a life long journey of dealing with various ailments. What I have suffered from, no man nor a woman can fully comprehend. I would not in my existence choose the alleyways of despair, etc., upon which life has swept on me. I myself shall go and consult the information on EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing). An individual would need 'Walk the Path' and have experience of it. I many times have stipulated we as human beings share our planet and thus irrevocably have an interconnection. This portion is representative of our external reality we live and experience in objective fashion.
I in use of an analogy compare this as a Nature component based on genetics and is best thought analogous to a Hard-Wiring of an individual's subconscious mind. The other dimension is that of our internal reality made of each individual's beliefs, thoughts, feelings as well perception. This is subjective by nature. It's my own view and perspective all our experiences in life have the primary origin in the early formative years of pivotal childhood. As I stated on numerous times their has been identified the 40 developmental assets that are crucial for a child to receive in their formative years. These developmental assets have been ascertained through science research of both qualitative and quantitative study.
If the child receives enough of these ingredients for success, odds are far more likely the person will live out throughout a course of their life a more balanced, healthy and as well happy life. Those lucky individuals who had a fortunate benefit of growing into a stable environment surrounded by love, safety, proper boundaries and guidelines. These precious young people did not have an ordeal of dealing with parents who have issues of their own which are then projected unto their kids. This is an aspect of the 'Nurture' we did or simply did not receive in childhood.
As I have upon multiple re-explanations stipulated our early developmental stages of life and with conjunction the life lessons we learn upon our journey during a course of a lifetime are analogous to a brain's 'Soft-Ware.' Research has with unequivocal study shown that the children growing in an adverse, dysfunctional home of abuse will show a lifetime of problematic features in home life, employ-ability, substance abuse, have more teenage pregnancies, problems in a viable relationship, mental health symptoms, etc. Fully two thirds will suffer for a lack of parenting skills they've received into a foreseeable future during their purgatory felt symptom's felt, experience'd and endured. This all in turn bring about a 66 percentile in dysfunction and life long problematic symptoms.
It is not easily understood by another who has not endured the purgatory feeling of despair for they live in another phenomenological inner-universe of life's experience. They simply can not comprehend nor had first hand knowledge of an individual that does suffer nor experienced the depth of it. It is akin to hell on earth. Due to a person's individualized paradigm of both Nature along Nurture, there isn't any one alike to a 100th percentile. So many wise saying, "Do not judge lest ye have walked a mile in my shoes." "Live and let live." "If you can't say something positive or framed with respectful feedback, then don't say anything at all." All of these wise sayings are so simple. It is in adversity that a person may test their true moral character. "What is it to preach one thing and being affiliated with those of only like view if you do not have the courage to treat others of dissimilar view with respect?"
That doesn't mean you have to agree or condone with another's viewpoint. Instead have restraint of your emotional state plus show manifested spiritual maturity. Labeling and name calling with pejoratives manifest a lack of reason and you do not walk the path you may proclaim you walk. Mental Health has so much stigma. The described characteristics I articulated lead me to try being a voice of critical reason, non-distorted thought, mindfulness, mental discipline, active listening skills in communication and empathy. All need to be taught at a much earlier level so it may chance become ingrained in us and be as a second nature."