INTJs don't combine enormous surges of feelings (or what may feel like it) and focus on other things well (productively in this case I guess).
noooo bad idea. never tell a girl something is above her, even if it is and even if you say slightly. just say you need to focus on school right now, and might not have as much time to spend with her as you want right now, but after the semester you're all hers.
INTJs don't combine enormous surges of feelings (or what may feel like it) and focus on other things well (productively in this case I guess).
Focus on your studies. Girls will be there afterwards.
I was thinking of asking her at the end of the semester so we could meet during the summer vacation. And just have conversations till then. Do you think that is a good idea?
I know that this is J-anaethma, but allow for some flex in the "plan". You're talking about not dating this woman for an entire semester because you've got it "all planned"? There's *no* time in there to do fun stuff? There should be, for your sanity if nothing else. If you want to ask her out, do so. If things go well, hang out with her more, while still giving yourself time to focus on school too. If she's any kind of person you want to be with, she's not going to be some domineering "ignore your schoolwork or I'll hate you!" type. Life's a balance.
Hate to disagree with Giggly, but I do -- completely . It can be rare to find someone you're interested in and who is interested in you. Waiting "until the timing is right" is a surefire way to miss out on an opportunity to start something great. College isn't just about the schoolwork.
I think this is a bad idea -- not as bad as telling her "I like you, but schoolwork comes first" (that's really bad), but it seems pretty likely that your window for actually asking her out will have expired by then. If you're seriously interested in pursuing something potentially non-platonic with this woman, take the first step sooner rather than later. It's not a lifelong (or even a semester-long) commitment at this point -- but miss that chance, and it's probably gone for good.
It always starts with the woman wanting a romantic and sensitive partner who is able to show his emotions, but later when you need a family manager, the demand for a masterbrained planer arises in notime. And if you are the sensitive guy, soon you'll be labeled as the big crybaby who isnt able to take life serious.
I tell you, woman and wicked start both with a w
Humans aren't here because people chose study over reproduction. Your strategy is evolutionarily unfit, I'm afraid. You will always be busy with something: study, work, etc. etc.
Let the extroverts reproduce! I've got books to read.
it makes it sound like the relationship is a side thought and not important to him (which may be true for the op, i dont know).
If you're honest with yourself and know that you are weak in these areas when a love interest is at your hands, then it really is best to focus on your studies.
Yes, it is a "side thought". For me the priorities are very clear: First my studies (100%), then the women (60%).
It's more that I know when I fall for her then I'd ruin my semester. I would neglect my studies etc. So it's better to stay out of the game. Besides, there's another ESFP who's interested in me, but only for the fun ride... no commitments, no potential relationship. And I think that option is more compatible with my plans.
Focus on your studies. Girls will be there afterwards.
So this means that INTJs don't believe in love at first sight?
I believe in lechery at first sight.So this means that INTJs don't believe in love at first sight?