melomania
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- Dec 22, 2014
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- INFP
Female INFP looking for advice on how to better communicate with my ESFJ husband when addressing a conflict. If anyone has advice or just wants to relate, I would love to hear your input.
Currently, I am working on:
*Not using blanket terms like "always" and "never" (as in, "you always do this or that")
*Trying to keep my statements as logical as possible when my feelings have been hurt (that has been super easy!)
*Learning to consciously figure out why I am feeling bothered by something and then figuring out how to put that into words that make sense to other people and don't just sound like a bunch of whiny bullshit.
Things I have asked him to work on:
*Acknowledging that my feelings were hurt.
*Giving me time to mull over my feelings before responding.
*Asking me more questions instead of making quick judgments about what he thinks my motives are.
Currently, I am working on:
*Not using blanket terms like "always" and "never" (as in, "you always do this or that")
*Trying to keep my statements as logical as possible when my feelings have been hurt (that has been super easy!)
*Learning to consciously figure out why I am feeling bothered by something and then figuring out how to put that into words that make sense to other people and don't just sound like a bunch of whiny bullshit.
Things I have asked him to work on:
*Acknowledging that my feelings were hurt.
*Giving me time to mull over my feelings before responding.
*Asking me more questions instead of making quick judgments about what he thinks my motives are.