Rachelinpa
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istp's dad has congestive heart failure and is in the hospital for the second time this week. istp found out some news this morning that he says is "not good," but he did not specify what. not that he needs to.
i don't know how to be supportive of him beyond the usual... "i'm so sorry" and "let me know if i can do anything." i haven't met his dad yet, and under the circumstances, i don't think istp wants me to go to the hospital with him even though i offered.
any suggestions on comforting an istp? lots of space... no space... reach out to them or no? i don't want to smother (since that is obviously my tendency), but i don't want to make him feel like i'm not there for him.
is it better for me to step back and just let him come to me? i didn't ask him specifics on the news. i figured if he wanted to let me know he would...
he is so very sad. he is not at all his usual happy self.
heart hurts for him.
i don't know how to be supportive of him beyond the usual... "i'm so sorry" and "let me know if i can do anything." i haven't met his dad yet, and under the circumstances, i don't think istp wants me to go to the hospital with him even though i offered.
any suggestions on comforting an istp? lots of space... no space... reach out to them or no? i don't want to smother (since that is obviously my tendency), but i don't want to make him feel like i'm not there for him.
is it better for me to step back and just let him come to me? i didn't ask him specifics on the news. i figured if he wanted to let me know he would...
he is so very sad. he is not at all his usual happy self.
heart hurts for him.