Hi!
I was wondering if any xstps could tell me if cockiness was a typical trait of you guys as i think my best mate is an xstp and he is cocky as hell and i really need to find a way to teach him some humility.
Is he right all the time? If he is then maybe the cockiness is merited.
No. He is fairly good at more or less everything. But only good. I'm better than him at a few things like maths, chemistry and stuff like that but he is good at mostly everything in life.
But he always has been but he hasn't always been cocky.
Hi!
I was wondering if any xstps could tell me if cockiness was a typical trait of you guys as i think my best mate is an xstp and he is cocky as hell and i really need to find a way to teach him some humility.
Well, just because your best friend is cocky and just so happens to be STP doesn't mean all STPs are. Cockiness is a human trait in general, anyone can be cocky for one reason or another.
I'm not saying all STPs are i'm asking if they are thus this thread.
OK, I'm an ESTP, off the charts in all measures, and I think that cockiness is definitley a default characteristic of XSTPs. The deal is this though, we all must learn to temper our behavior in order to get along in the worlds we live in.
For instance, it does me no good to be cocky with my wife, she would get pissed and I'd get the silent treatment for 4-5 days, so if I am cocky with her its playful and in jest.
Second, it does me no good to be cocky with my boss. If I were to do that he would fire my ass or just give me crap assignments for a few weeks until I got my ego in check.
BUT, cockiness does have its place, especially with humor, and in other more casual interpersonal relations. I don't take any shit from coworkers who try to get snotty with me, I shut them down while smiling the whole time and go on about my business. Also, if someone in a conversation is being a cocky jerk and not entertaining the other participants, then I'll usually do what I need to in order to keep things lively.
I do believe their is a big difference between COCKINESS and CONFIDENT. Confidence is more accepted, as it is not delivered with any condescending tone. Cockiness is less tolerated as it is more of a juvenile means of asserting one's self in the presence of others.
So, if you want to get back at this fellow, make a direct challenge at him for something you know you will school him in. I guarantee you if you shut him down a few times and prove that you are not intimidated by him, he will chill out a little bit.
There is cockiness in a bragging manner and there is being confident in one's self or in at least the relevant topic of discussion. I would say the former is quite offensive even to me, but if the friend is merely being sure of themself then, it sounds as though the onlooker has the problem. As for Halla's assertions they are really good insights, except for the average ISTP, they may be quite cautious in walking into your trap of trying to lead them to your playing level. Besides a person may become even more annoyed since I personally have no problem admitting that I am clueless to a subject that I find of no interest.
There is cockiness in a bragging manner and there is being confident in one's self or in at least the relevant topic of discussion. I would say the former is quite offensive even to me, but if the friend is merely being sure of themself then, it sounds as though the onlooker has the problem. As for Halla's assertions they are really good insights, except for the average ISTP, they may be quite cautious in walking into your trap of trying to lead them to your playing level. Besides a person may become even more annoyed since I personally have no problem admitting that I am clueless to a subject that I find of no interest.
Just point it out and shut your mouth. They'll notice (Se) and think about it.