Parables are an interesting thing. Sharing a few verses that seem to well summarize my own thoughts on seeking the Kingdom, and I've got to say it's the most difficult and potentially rewarding journey I've ever embarked upon, yet more often than not fail miserably the moments I don't remember to or cannot see. The gist of Luke 17:20-22, seek the Kingdom within and exemplify/create it without. Essentially, pause before responding to a thread, a news event, a flustered family member, loved one, co-worker, customer, or friend. Allow the potential for the highest good to unfold, by maintaining awareness of the emotional "monkey mind" while not losing sight of the reality we live in a "fallen" realm. The other two verses exampled are potential considerations that might help foster higher quality communications and more civil outcomes when a response or judgement is actually sensible, discernable, and necessary.
As with anything in life, I suspect it gets better and easier with practice...least for situations where I look back and consider how I might have approached it better, often an awareness raised by the uncreated light, what most Protestants would recognize as the Holy Spirit. It's easier to recognize my own contribution to the outcome, or the unnecessary disruption of another's sense of peace on a matter that I have absolutely no control or influence upon...or lost sight of my own and the other individuals hereant humanity. That funny looking word before humanity is the Latin form and it means "severing" for those who might not readily pick it out.
Luke 17:20 When asked by the Pharisees when the kingdom of God would come, Jesus replied, “The kingdom of God will not come with observable signs. 21Nor will people say, ‘Look, here it is,’ or ‘There it is.’ For you see, the kingdom of God is in your midst.†22Then He said to the disciples, “The time is coming when you will long to see one of the days of the Son of Man, but you will not see it.…
Luke 6:42
How can you say, 'Brother, let me take the speck out of your eye,' while you yourself fail to see the beam in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the beam out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother's eye.
Romans 2:1
You therefore have no excuse, you who pass judgment on another. For on whatever grounds you judge the other, you are condemning yourself, because you who pass judgment do the same things.