Hmmm, this video was very interesting. It actually made me a bit sad. I was able to see much truth in his points. When I reflect back on my childhood and wonder why I do not have much memory recall, I attribute it to exactly this. That I do not know that I don't know. All I do know though, was that I tried very hard to forget most of it. (and then I wonder how much of my brain is possibly damaged, ha ha).
At any rate, it was always a goal of mine to be a better parent than my own parents were. In many ways I do feel I am a much better parent to my own children now, and even have to put my parents in their places when they are ignorant and belittling to my children when they visit. But it makes so much sense as to why in all my adult relationships, I have looked for people who I could trust that would not hurt me, yet still managed to choose the ones who would. Differential association, (or face to face learning). So agreed with the video, that our core wiring happens in the early years. And to get help with reprogramming while an adult.