ChocolateMoose123
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I think in some cases a 'bully' is the perception of the person being 'bullied.' That's not to say authentic bullies don't exist because they do (I dealt with some in grade school) but I've been called out for 'bullying' which baffled me because it wasn't my intent. I've never physically bullied anyone and always had an attitude that agrees with not initiating violence. However, in conversation, some people have felt that I've bullied them into certain arguments when that wasn't my intent at all.
I think bullying has an added element of harrassment in it. The fear of repeated attacks. Being a jerk isn't being a bully necessarily. But bullies are jerks.
What you describe sounds like you may have stepped on someone's toes but I wouldn't define that as bullying, unless you were aware of this perception of you and played it up.