As you know, INFP is a self-effacing type, we're rarely jealous of others and project that good intention onto others. How do you respond to jealousy? I don't mean jealous feelings, I mean people being jealous of you, having bad intentions for you? I find it makes me uncomfortable, releases the monster within me, I struggle to comprehend it.
Sorry I missed this before. I think I started writing an answer and then found it difficult to explain. I don't notice very much if people are jealous of me. I really can't remember any time in my life where I said to myself, oh, that person might/must be jealous of me. I have been told that a person is jealous of me a couple of times in the past, and it made their actions make more sense in that light, but I struggled to visualize the nature of their jealousy or how it might change their behavior going forwards. So I guess mostly I am oblivious to it.
How do you INFPs deal with touch? Example: Physical affection.
I love it from my boyfriend and nuclear family, and I am comfortable with it from extended family who I am on warm terms with. From basically anyone else it makes me uncomfortable.
How would one place that in context of neediness? When does touch become uncomfortable by the romantic partner?
Rarely, only if we're really entrenched in an argument. In the context of neediness, I seek a high level of physical touch, but that might be a me thing more than an INFP thing - it's my primary "love language".
When do INFPs start pushing people away from their life?
When they are knowingly insulting to me or people/things/causes I care about - not just like a little bit of insult in anger or argument, but multiple instances of intentional and purposeful devaluation over a period of time after I have tried to mitigate the conflict. I have discovered it does not hurt me at all to cut a person who has done that that out of my life, and that it takes a real show of remorse for them to make it back in.
Soo when INFPs - I think this mostly applies to e4s - complain about themselves, do they feel less stressed afterwards?
I don't think I do that much. I like to joke about my weaknesses... it feels good to share them with others and have them acknowledge them and make light of them with me. Or I like to talk about them in an analytical, problem-solving sense. Complaining makes me feel like I'm stuck with something bad I can't change.
What kind of a partner does an INFP female want? In short bullet points, and without physical attributes pls...
Me personally:
- Kind
- Polite
- Patient
- Values knowledge/education
- Values family
- Open to adventure
I prefer for their values to be similar to mine and for them to be more practical and more action-oriented than me. In typology terms, I prefer Sensors and sp-high.
Arctic Hysteria said:
You're looking for the wrong person. But not just any wrong person: the right wrong person - someone you gaze upon lovingly and think, "This is the problem I want to have."
I really like this.
The longer I have been in a serious relationship, the more I have come to realize that the other person will always be foreign to me, always changing and growing in a way that I can't be familiar with and comfortable with. But that is also the beauty and the mystery of the "other", and if that foreignness were lost, so too would be the magnetism that binds us.
I think part of what makes it "love" is that we are required to endlessly subvert ourselves to be accepting of the other, to continually open ourselves to a different way of being. Loving isn't easy. It breaks down barriers and tears down walls. It changes old bonds and creates new bonds. It requires families to expand and forces new life into being. It is healing and it is painful.