hilo
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- Mar 8, 2010
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- INTP
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- 9 sx
Understanding types is important, but I guess I'm looking for practical advice.
My boss is an e6, probably a 6w5. (Also an ISTP if that matters). We do academic science (I'm a grad student). My problem, and I realize enneagram might seem like an odd place to turn, is that he is a really really regressed 6.
Bordering on paranoid at times, he gets completely stuck in fear-based logic short-circuits, which have caused his career to go quite badly (he can't conquer his fear of being wrong long enough to turn out useful research let alone publish it).
I'm in a typically powerless position, as unless he does something that really crosses an ethical line, I've basically got to put up with him to graduate. I've managed to stay on his good side, and do research with outside people in order to get my own requirements in. But now that he's likely to get fired in the next year or so things are getting worse (as in, trying to present my work as his own, trying to take authorship cred, not even pretending to care what happens to my career, etc). I guess I am looking for advice on how to work with a totally f-ed up 6 in order to help them move forward (and also, how not to piss them off while being assertive about not being taken advantage of). I'm really worried that he will start blaming me for how things turned out for him, or give me a bad reference out of spite, as he seems jealous of the fact that I'm actually doing ok. I don't think he's a bad person, just a desperate one that needs some help.
My boss is an e6, probably a 6w5. (Also an ISTP if that matters). We do academic science (I'm a grad student). My problem, and I realize enneagram might seem like an odd place to turn, is that he is a really really regressed 6.
Bordering on paranoid at times, he gets completely stuck in fear-based logic short-circuits, which have caused his career to go quite badly (he can't conquer his fear of being wrong long enough to turn out useful research let alone publish it).
I'm in a typically powerless position, as unless he does something that really crosses an ethical line, I've basically got to put up with him to graduate. I've managed to stay on his good side, and do research with outside people in order to get my own requirements in. But now that he's likely to get fired in the next year or so things are getting worse (as in, trying to present my work as his own, trying to take authorship cred, not even pretending to care what happens to my career, etc). I guess I am looking for advice on how to work with a totally f-ed up 6 in order to help them move forward (and also, how not to piss them off while being assertive about not being taken advantage of). I'm really worried that he will start blaming me for how things turned out for him, or give me a bad reference out of spite, as he seems jealous of the fact that I'm actually doing ok. I don't think he's a bad person, just a desperate one that needs some help.