SilkRoad
Lay the coin on my tongue
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- sp/sx
I'm feeling a lot of anger at the moment. It is mostly pent up but it bursts forth once in a while.
A lot of it seems to be resentment, more or less directed at people who I feel have taken advantage of me or misunderstood me. But it seems almost disproportionate. It's probably one of those typical INFJ subterranean buildups. One day you wake up and realise you're a lot angrier than you thought you were.
Maybe it is also partly directed at myself. Because I suppose where I've been taken advantage of, I've walked into the trap myself, to a certain extent. And misunderstandings, well, I've probably made mistakes there too.
The worst is when you've even confronted the person over how you're feeling, and while it may be painful at least you're being honest. And you seem to have resolved it with them. And then a few days or weeks later you realize you still feel resentment...
I'm definitely having problems with letting things go. I've always had problems with letting really major things go. The trouble is that now I feel like the less major things are building up too. I believe in forgiveness and I don't want this in my life/psyche.
How do you INFJs and NFs (and anyone!) deal with this? I really don't like feeling this way. I'm not typically an "angry person".
A lot of it seems to be resentment, more or less directed at people who I feel have taken advantage of me or misunderstood me. But it seems almost disproportionate. It's probably one of those typical INFJ subterranean buildups. One day you wake up and realise you're a lot angrier than you thought you were.
Maybe it is also partly directed at myself. Because I suppose where I've been taken advantage of, I've walked into the trap myself, to a certain extent. And misunderstandings, well, I've probably made mistakes there too.
The worst is when you've even confronted the person over how you're feeling, and while it may be painful at least you're being honest. And you seem to have resolved it with them. And then a few days or weeks later you realize you still feel resentment...
I'm definitely having problems with letting things go. I've always had problems with letting really major things go. The trouble is that now I feel like the less major things are building up too. I believe in forgiveness and I don't want this in my life/psyche.
How do you INFJs and NFs (and anyone!) deal with this? I really don't like feeling this way. I'm not typically an "angry person".