Its somewhat how I experience things so at most take it as one example. I don't mean to exaggerate. If I am backed into a situation and facing a plausible threat that must be dealt with, I will deal with it . When it comes to a conflict, I am a hammer with a nail .My naturical inclination is To confront it even when that is not the best course of action though I am not stupid. If I will lose or it is the wrong time, I will back off at least for the time being . If winning will be losing in my prudent moments, I will also back off . I get better at as I get older but the natural tendency always exists. There is always the issue of I make mistakes . Again, I am a hammer with a nail .This all might get taken wrong - like I am some kind of hothead . Nothing would be further from the truth . I have a very high toleration for expressions of emotion and conflict . I enjoy it in fact and can be amused by it . When it gets caustic,petty, drama without reason, unproductive, spiteful, take any number of the wrong words . When conflict is desired by parties towards resolutuon, or simply expressive of feelings, I am all good . When it is toxic, intended to destroy or harm things. intentionally designed to really hurt people and especially those I am close to, I don't react well. Rhetoric I respond poorly to because I view it as lies/false . It's also bad if I am personally fucked over and it's about something that is important to me .
Some of this is my attempt to try and explain to people who I am . It is neither good or bad OR JUST BOTH . It just is what is .People need to live with that, choose how to deal with me or don't . I make no allusions to being perfect .
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Peter Deadpan you don't seem like this 6 type to me . Not intense or serious enough. .Not enough anger for a 6sx . Too many possibilities and too much humor which I appreciate and need more of . I would also go with sx for sure . Just a different number . Not 1,2, 3 6, 8, 9 . I could possibly see 4,5 or 7 basically . INFP bordering on ENFP . You are not the everyday INFP somehow - less moralistic and more ENFPish You have strongr Ne than Fi but seem introverted . .Like you seem ENFP totally but your are ain introvrt . So ENFP that is an introvert if possible . .I haven't done this in a while . Is fun .
Thanks for the info and the spontaneous analysis of my own type. I do agree with what you said about me, although the only thing I would add is that I have a sort of pseudo-7 thing going on. I say pseudo because it doesn't translate into real life beyond humor or self-indulgent behavior as a way of maintaining more enjoyable feelings (something that several types do, mainly 4, 7, and 9). I also do enjoy planning or focusing on self-improvement sometimes, and unfortunately I rarely stick with things long enough for them to become habit, or even worse - I will form a habit, and then something will happen, and I will sabotage my progress self-indulgently. I think that any high-Ne user will naturally have some 7-ish quality to them because Ne is just such a bouncy on-to-the-next function. I've also noticed that in stressful, depressing times, I will sometimes become more scattered and frustrated when I cannot find something of interest to me, something to dig my feet into. If you think of how I was when I first joined forum, that is what was going on. I was all. over. the. place.
I've known since I was a small child that something about me was just.... weird and off. I have always been aware of this strange combination of characteristics, and even moreso, a sort of complex and complicated way of processing the world that at times just felt like it had the potential to be fragile in a (for lack of a better and less dramatic word) dark way.
I can 100% see why people on forum continue to point out just how heady I can be, and for that reason along with others, I have lately been looking at the possibility of having missed something significant in my typing journey.
Function wise, I tend to think that Ne is what energizes me. I actually get really depressed when I can't interact with people, at least online. I don't think I could even go 2 days without doing so. I absolutely love and need my alone time, and a lot of it, but after awhile, I get kinda cagey and just have to get out of my house, if even only for a trip to Target (holy mom pants, batman). I also think that I am better with Te than Si. I am quite comfortable teaching others or showing them how to do things more efficiently, and a lot of my criticisms of other people revolve around their incompetence or oversights (which could also be 5-ish). I am more indulgent when it comes to Si and don't have many, if any, positive Si habits.
You know what keeps me up at night? The dumbest shit, like "fuck! I forgot to pay that bill!", or "I have so much to do; call this place and that place, get these prescriptions filled, get my taxes in order, look into school and financial aid stuff, blah blah blah blah etc etc etc." It all revolves around my weakness with Si, and I repeatedly criticize myself for being unable to "get my life in order".
Also, I do this thing sometimes where I can tell my body needs something, or is sick, but I can't even tell what it is. Example: "I can't tell if I'm hungry or thirsty or getting sick right now". That probably seems ludicrous to Si doms.
Kurt Cobain was an INFP 5, and there are ENFP 4s. I am certain that I am somewhere in that mix.
One more afterthought because apparently mental ADHD is a thing this morning: I don't seem to be as confident in my Fi assessments as most INFPs OR 4s. I seem to need more time to think things through, and I have more hesitation opening up about certain things to people (I fight a lot of that in my blog because I've realized the toxicity of keeping everything buried). I've never had a journal, I've never written poetry, and frankly... I'm not even that artistically expressive (I am capable of it but I have never committed to it long-term as a form of self-expression). I find that words are my most natural medium and I prefer to paint pictures with them. So in short, basically I am either a 4 and Fi second, or I'm a head type INFP. My focus now is on weighing which has been more prevalent in my life: feeling defective and longing for the missing piece, or feeling overwhelmed and under prepared. It's a tough call, honestly.