NK258
New member
- Joined
- Jan 23, 2014
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- MBTI Type
- INFJ
- Enneagram
- 6w7
- Instinctual Variant
- sx/sp
I have a 4 in my tritype and this has been bothering me. Is it better to try and live up to the fantasy self or let it go? Is the fantasy self your purpose or an illusion? What happens when you live up to the fantasy self? Do you just create another one? What has your experience been?
I personally do not believe you can switch your core fix. Nor do I think it's of any benefit to live up to your fantasy self. If you mean rather, your ideal potential you seek to achieve, go for it. If you mean you daydream an image of who you think you are, and are afraid to embrace the fact that you are not this person, I suggest you push through it. My closest friend is a 4 with a strong 5 wing. She has grown to be a more secure individual and has grown to be more authentic (which is something she's demanded primarily of others most her life) by accepting she is who she is, and not the fantasy she construes to feel safe and more secure. There is false inner security, and true inner security. The latter of which takes work to accumulate. If it wasn't work. It wouldn't be worth much now would it.
My apologies if I misunderstood what you were asking here.