I'm not saying that this is what YOU are doing, but the whole 'I have fat' vs 'I am fat' thing kind of reminds me of other things in society, like alcoholism.
Alcoholism used to be a bad thing that was 'your fault', and now it's just genetic disease you have no control over. Our society keeps moving away from personal responsibility - or 'fault' - in every area of life.
I definitely feel that way too on a very personal level. It is difficult for me to empathize with people with alcoholism, and binge eating, because there IS responsibility attached. Absolutely there is. But the issue is not whether people acknowledge responsibility or not.. they obviously and clearly do... but when a problem is too daunting, responsibility feels out of reach. So there's this duality of all the 'responsibility' side being seen as negative (it's all your fault) because people disguise it into a mask of guilt, and blame, and fault.. and frequently, people are NOT fat entirely of their own doing, making things even MORE complicated. How can you tell someone it is your fault your parents raised you that way? Or that you found comfort in food when no one was there for you? Lack of resources, education, support, and general life frequently gets in the way... and that truly isn't other people's fault. Does that negate responsibility? No. That's why diet and exercise and creating healthy relationships with food education and body image are super important... but people have to get there in their own time.. and responsibility is gray there.. Existing the whole time, sure, but how it's presented makes a big impact. It should be a positive weapon a person can wield against the negativity in their lives... frequently it is used as a shaming shackle being dragged with them, painting them as a target for ridicule. Are there plenty of people who choose easy ways out and are generally unhealthy foreverz? Sure. But most fat people that struggle with weight (i.e. feel/are/have fat in excessive amounts to what is healthy for them) struggle for reasons that are far removed from the body and eating itself. More often than not the issue is mental. Unrealistic ideas of what the body should look like, etc. etc.
It is like I told my father, who has anger issues and bursts he cannot control because of his medication. It isn't that you GIVE UP just because it is much more difficult.. but that you work harder on it than most people will ever have to.. and yes, definitely, people should be considerate of the fact you have to work 3x as hard on something most people don't even think about. Responsibility is not removed from his hands there. But it isn't really his fault he's in the situation he's in, either. There was a severe lack of education on shell shock back when my father was in the service.. and delayed reactions hit him very hard.
Personally, I am definitely with you. I can't empathize as much... but I've seen enough to know that frequently people can feel beaten down and powerless because people paint this mask of responsibility that doesn't cover the whole picture. Yeah, fat people have to work harder to be healthy (just like people who have hyperactive metabolisms have to work very hard to keep up with nutrient requirements) because there's several layers of issues there normally.. and in that, they definitely hold the key of responsibility. No one is completely without blame. But total blame isn't really the whole picture either.
BTW: I'm confused how can you have fat yet not be eating enough?
To be fair, I don't really have any excess fat. Not for a woman my height and weight. I could use a bit more if anything. MY issue is my lack of muscle gains. But your argument is precisely why I like the article. Because it DOES put responsibility, in a positive light, back into someone's hands. They are NOT fat. As in.. that is not their identity. Fat is not a personality trait, or something crazy like that. It is something changeable that does NOT sacrifice a person being true to themselves.. and in fact, frequently, people get more in touch with themselves when they challenge their stances with their own body. They learn what was truly bothering them.. what was holding them back. That they aren't lazy, or unable, or incapable.. that really x issue was bothering them and never went away. That they never felt strong enough, or good enough, or worthy enough. Whatever it is.