How much do you ISxJ's rely on looks vs. personality?
If you meet a guy and he is very nice and kind and gentleman like, but he is not as handsome as you wish he was, would you still give him a chance?
Oh can i answer please .. OK then
I'll answer your 2nd question first .. Yes, i would give him a chance.
1st question .. Personality is far more important than looks. Looks fade anyway. (says the 30 yr old who is now single, lol)
Am i reading to much into this. Are you saying you are not handsome?
If so, then Mr, i am going to come there and kick your ass personally.
I've seen your pic's .. You are rugged and handsome.
If however i have the wrong end of the stick .. Then apologies
Note - I wouldn't really come and kick your ass .. I would squish you into submission, lol.
I don't really have a set criteria for the looks department (other than: I would prefer he be taller than me and not overweight), but I do have a set criteria for the personality department. So, I would say my priorities are more with personality than looks. Of course, there still has to be some physical attraction on both sides, but it's not as important to me as his values, belief system, qualities, mutual interests, etc.How much do you ISxJ's rely on looks vs. personality?
Yes, I definitely would! Like I said, I don't have an ideal picture in my mind of how "handsome" he should be (other than those two things I mentioned). If I find him attractive at all, and he has a personality I desire (for you, it'd be: nice, kind, gentleman, + similar values) then I would definitely give him a chance!If you meet a guy and he is very nice and kind and gentleman like, but he is not as handsome as you wish he was, would you still give him a chance?
...I don't see a pictureI recently posted a picture in my blog if you are wondering.... and I am wearing a tux- as every penguin should.
This, basically. Only, in my case, replace the word "girl" with the word "guy". Like sas said, looks will fade...I will not date a girl unless I see potential marriage material.
Aww... you did not elaborate much on your answers.
Rugged? Handsome? Are you sure you remember what I look like? I recently posted a picture in my blog if you are wondering.... and I am wearing a tux- as every penguin should.
I was going to say! Why would you want to do violence to me? I thought we had something special? (See "SJ quiz" thread )
What are you implying here Autumn?If I find him attractive at all, and he has a personality I desire (for you, it'd be: nice, kind, gentleman, + similar values) then I would definitely give him a chance!
Here it is: http://www.typologycentral.com/forums/864560-post1414.html..I don't see a picture
Wait, what do you mean?This, basically. Only, in my case, substitute the word "girl" for "guy". Like sas said, looks will fade...
Firstly, it would of been much easier had you said, look on page 142
I am wicked? =( What do you mean in a positive way? Yes, I like to be brave. But what do you mean getting braver? That is a verb, surely you cannot see me doing brave things? I need examples....Now something i have noticed with you .. Your confidence does seem to be picking up. You seem to be getting a little braver and your sense of humour is wicked (in a positive way).
Now please feel free to analyze what i have said, find all the negatives you can and reply.
What are you implying here Autumn?
Oops, I switched the wrong words.Wait, what do you mean?
Oohhh.... okay. I have found however, that this has not worked for me. =( Sometimes I feel like I am so very "picky" that I shall never find a female that meets my standards.Oops, I switched the wrong words.
As in, "I will not date a guy unless I see potential marriage material."
I am wicked? =( What do you mean in a positive way? Yes, I like to be brave. But what do you mean getting braver? That is a verb, surely you cannot see me doing brave things? I need examples....
Ah, yes, that's what I was sayingAre you saying you would give me a chance because I am "kind.." (and whatever else you said about me )?
Yeah, there are times when I've doubted it as well. Times when I've kicked myself because, if I weren't so "picky", then I'd probably be in a relationship right now (or, at least, there would be a higher probability of that happening). However, ultimately, I think it will work out in the end. For me, the whole point of dating is to find someone I can spend the rest of my life with. So, for me, there's no point in dating someone I don't consider "marriage potential" because I don't want to give little intimate pieces of myself to people who I know I'll never be with in the long run (or who I don't want to be with in the long run).Oohhh.... okay. I have found however, that this has not worked for me. =( Sometimes I feel like I am so very "picky" that I shall never find a female that meets my standards.
Ah, yes, that's what I was saying
Yes, she still has no texted me like she said she would. She has forgotten about me. I talked to her Sunday night... so, I will have to wait until tomorrow to text her? I do not understand the whole waiting thing. =(But it sounds like, for you and this ISFJ, the whole "conversing comfortably for long periods of time" thing is not a problem.
Does she usually text you back right away?Yes, she still has no texted me like she said she would. She has forgotten about me. I talked to her Sunday night... so, I will have to wait until tomorrow to text her? I do not understand the whole waiting thing. =(
Does she usually text you back right away?
As for the waiting... if you want to go ahead and text her today, I don't think that would be a problem.
I feel for you d@v3, I'm in the exact same situation right now with an INFJ I like. I'm shy and so he is, so I'm the one who usually always initiates any texting. Which makes me feel like I'm annoying him, so I try to only do it once or twice a week (unless we're discussing plans for the weekend, then the conversation requires more texts than that ).No, I usually have to initiate. She is very shy. .... but then again, so am I.
I would definitely text her either today or tomorrow. Just text her something casual like ask how her day is (or if you do it on Wed: ask how her week as been so far ). Maybe even ask if she has plans for the weekend.I don't want to bother her by texting her if she does not want to text me. =( But then again, what if she genuinely forgot? It is a gamble. I do not know what to do.
How much do you ISxJ's rely on looks vs. personality?
If you meet a guy and he is very nice and kind and gentleman like, but he is not as handsome as you wish he was, would you still give him a chance?
Text: "Hey You're still looking for a new school to transfer to, right? I could show you around my school sometime. Maybe this weekend? "I wanted to invite her to do something this weekend. Perhaps take her around my school (she is looking for a new school to transfer to ) but I don't know how to bring it up.
Yeah, I saw. By the way, what made you change your mind about her type? ENFP --> ISFJ is a pretty large jumpBy the way, did you see the thread I dedicated to her last march? I posted it earlier in this thread. That is how things were before we had the 4-5 month gap of not talking.
I saw it! Haha, how many IRL ISTJ friends do you have? I don't have any...Also, did you find that picture I said was in my blog? That girl who is standing with me is also an ISTJ.
I agree with this. A good/interesting/intriguing personality, and qualities such as "confidence", will make you appear more attractive to her.Confidence and authenticity would probably do you some good with a ISFJ. Good luck!
Um I would say looks are very important to an ISFJ. But lucky for us guys, women like all different types of men. Confidence and authenticity would probably do you some good with a ISFJ. Good luck!
I didn't think I had ANY ISTJ friends in real life.... then I made her take the test.Text: "Hey You're still looking for a new school to transfer to, right? I could show you around my school sometime. Maybe this weekend? "
^ That's probably how I would ask anyways.
Yeah, I saw. By the way, what made you change your mind about her type? ENFP --> ISFJ is a pretty large jump
I saw it! Haha, how many IRL ISTJ friends do you have? I don't have any...
I agree with this. A good/interesting/intriguing personality, and qualities such as "confidence", will make you appear more attractive to her.
I originally mistyped my interest as well. I thought he was an IxFJ, but I was very heavily leaning more towards SFJ. He took the test, and it turns out he is NFJ.I thought she was an ENFP because when went out before (in March) she was all the time trying to get me to dance with her and she was ALOT more extraverted when around people....
Then last Friday, I had her take the test and she got ISFJ.
Yeah, hmmm confidence.... how do I show I have confidence without coming onto her too strong and scaring her off?