I see it as masochism myself. I do get depressed sometimes, but I don't like it and try to stop feeling it. If I had a choice, I'd rather feel numb than feel pain. I totally don't get why they want to "feel alive" even if it hurts. That's kind of creepy to me.
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Perhaps after feeloing numb and empty for long enough anything is better, even pain? This may be an NeFi or just an Fi thing, I dont know but it seems prevelant enough in society not to be a simple fluke.
Since I think many NF could use more positive approach in life. But I don't understand what is stoping them in achiving that. Also I have impression that they have a tendency to run in circles.
Are NF(P)s always qute unstable on the inside?
Once trapped in an Ne-Fi rut it can be circular and can just dive deeper and deeper and sort of magnify itself. I keep looking outwards for affirmation to solve the problem???? This could just be me though. I have to make a decided choice to stop the cyclical thinking and look inside for a sense of stability??? I have to stop Fi from amplifying itself???
I use this place as a playground to test ideas and get inforamation and the reason why focus so much on feeling is because I totally suck at them completly. But I need to understand people around me. That is why I bombard this topic from so many sides. .
me too. I totally identify with this use of the forum. Not feeling but just people in general. I like the idea of bombarding a topic from all sides. Perhaps my baby Te thinks like your giant Te.
it just occurred to me that every time I read one of your posts, I "hear" you reading it out loud in my version of what I think your voice sounds like. I really need to examine this...
THIS IS SO TRUE!!!!!!! OMG!!! She's in my brain. But I kinda like it
Actually once an INTJ told me I write EXACTLY like I speak. So maybe this is what we see with the beautiful Lady X, that makes us sense a voice instead of text.
But I don't understand why. Which is because I don't understand the mind set. Why you reach out for others? Why don't you start thinking about solving the actual problem? I presume that NFs can do that but they don't in many cases.
Are your emotions so overpowering in critical situations?
I tend to ask for about five to ten opinions to supplement by decision about most anything. This means I go door to door sometimes chatting throughout the door to gather a sense of concensus. In my personal life I often question Fi and it's conclusions so be introducing those ideas to others I get feedback. I always knew my view was sometimes flawed but never understood the Fi specific role of that.
This what I am trying to say since I came here. But people don't believe me.
The only "flaw" of this is that you don't get too big bonuses from good emotions.
Dude, You'd be suprised.....
My job description consists of:
A) saying crazy shit to make others laugh
B) making scientists in adjacent cubicles speak to each other
C) making groups of people function together productively.
All Ne-Fi stuff. I just hit the six figure mark this year. All due to "good emotions" that help the organization function more effectively.