BerberElla
12 and a half weeks
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I agree that we don't know the "dire" of your situation.
My husband and I do trade offs, I've had people tell me that I need a bigger house. Well... ok.. then you buy it for me. My kids are always fed and have all the clothes and things they need. Sometimes it's easy to get caught up into what we are "supposed" to have vs. what humans actually need.
What would you want your children to do in your situation? You train them every day. You could look at it two ways, really. If you go to work you are showing them that current problems are more pressing than holding off for a possibly better future. (some could call it holding off for a desire) If you go to school you could look at it as teaching them that good things are worth waiting for and working hard for and to follow their dreams.
I would be careful with the "son says" thing. That can just be him trying to please you. They would probably follow you off a cliff if you said you wanted to do that.
Just remember, if not now, when?
Good points elaur.
It's true, I would advise my kids to study first, and I really believe seeing their mum do this would be good for them, a good role model.
It's true, it's people like the people who tell you you need a bigger house that have made me feel inadequate over my situation of late. But I guess hanging out with an ESFJ would do that to ya.
I was all set on the study plan until she starting giving me pointers as to where I was going wrong in my life.
Anyway, I am sticking to the study plans, I can manage, just can't keep up with the friends who have everything, and it's best they realise that and ditch my friendship or accept my limitations for now.