I see both sides as doing it.
Exactly!(my point).
When I identified myself more publicly with the "religious" end of things, I took a lot of crap like this from the anti-theists. Now that I don't toe the line with the conservative theologians, I get the same crap from -them-. That experience has given me a good understanding of how it's more of a "human" thing, rather than a position-based one. People are either open to new ideas and approach each other in loving and fair ways, or they're to some degree self-justifying and willing to impose on others. (Or some variation of those strategies.)
Logic is just useful as a triangulation method, in terms of faith issues. It can't prove anything on its own, and more often it's just used after the belief has been invested in, to ward off antagonists or to justify one's choices.
When people have a belief they are willing to invest in, it's usually been reached for other reasons aside from "logical conclusion." Bottom-line, people just want to believe it's true, and have had life experiences that they feel support what they want to believe. NTs can try to pretend that "logic" drove their search, but really, logic comes into play later for the majority of people; that's why we see a variety of stances supported by "logic" in the NT crowd.
I guess it only gets to be an issue when we're debating group dynamics or the application of group resources, where individual beliefs conflict with each other and people feel infringed upon.
I myself have seen both sides basically elevate themselves above human fallibility (including lack of objectivity), and that's one reason the disputes go nowhere. the old school creationists used to do the same thing. They claimed that the evidence was all in their favor (for stuff like young earth, or global flood geology), and the only reason people believe in evolution is because they're blind, or even because it was some Darwinist-Marxist conspiracy or something. Now, it seems the tables have turned, and science is responding with a vengeance, yet doing some of the same kinds of things.
I would say the Christian side should know better, because of the doctrine of the sinfulness of mankind. But they will tend to use this on the other side, and exempt themselves; after all; they were "changed" by believing. However, that has not stopped Christians from sinning (as they will also point out in others), and there are many groups like this who cannot even agree with each other on what exactly the true faith is.
On the other hand, those rejecting religion in favor of science should know better also, because if they can so easily see the human frailty in religious people ("fears, a crutch to get through life, makes them feel better about death, etc), then they should realize that they themselves never stopped being human either (And unlike the christians, they do not even claim any supernatural enlightenment to override that

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Yes, I tend not to lump notions of "God" in the same category as unicorns, that seems a bit sloppy intellectually. There's enough evidence and reason to entertain the possibility of deity, since the answer of origin is still ambiguous and highly relevant to life; meanwhile, there's not even real ambiguity about whether unicorns existed en masse, nor would it ever matter to in terms of the human race developing into what it is now.
My questions, skimming through this:
- What does it mean, practically speaking, to be "in a relationship with God?"
- What does it mean, practically speaking, to be "in love with God?"
Those are highly anthropomorphic terms that are thrown around as if they have relevance, but they don't really say anything concrete or definable. They also are fairly "new" on the event horizon of religion, which leads them to seem more like a filter for westernized culture, rather than any sort of universal standard that would have been relevant for every human being who has existed.
I always had problems feeling emotions for God, since you can't see him like another person. Then, they tell you it's "by faith", and give you a list of things to do like pray and read the Bible everyday, and it seems like basically mustering up feelings. Many people will also define the "relationship" in terms of "time spent with god" in prayer and Bible study. Since I have also had problems concentrating to do that regularly, I even had one say I was "lukewarm" and Christ would spit me out of his mouth. That was one of the last straws that got me reevaluating the whole evangelical framework.
I looked up concepts like "relationship" and saw that it was not defined like that (So ironic that they say you must read the Bible every day, but then what are they even bothering to read it for when they read stuff
into it, instead of out of it? The actual information travels
backwards!)
"Know"ing God was simply an act of receiving (his grace, that is). Thus the recipient would naturally love him for what he did for us. This seems harder now because the church has added all sorts of works and conditions to it.
Grace is somethign we receive, but much of Christianity had made it virtually something we
give in return. And no one can even agree as to what that is (outside of "time with God" which is about the only thing they agree on), as they all try to one-up each other.
So now, I no longer struggle with having to try to feel emotions, like all those people singing and praying in church.