Forgiveness and Understanding, which is more crucial to healing and moving on with life.

[LightSun]

Quote: “Forgiving someone doesn’t mean that their behavior was OK. What it does mean is that we’re ready to move on. To release the heavy weight. To shape our own life, on our terms, without any unnecessary burdens.” Dr. Suzanne Gelb

“It might be a matter of semantics. I used to really like this quote.

I don’t forgive my father. He was a terrible dad. That being said, I’ve healed to the point where I love him. This despite himself.

I know he did the best he could. I don’t judge him, nor do I hold on to any negative feelings. I’ve moved on and healed.

I also don’t forgive Hitler, Stalin and mass murderers, etc. The point is I don’t judge them. I hold these people accountable. This quote says forgiving is not the same as condoning something.

This is where the impasse occurs. I don’t mouth the words forgive. I don’t forgive, yet I don’t judge. I will hold people accountable. I understand. With this understanding, I can let go.

I now say that it is with understanding that one can heal and move on. Those that don’t understand then judge which is a sign of in a dictionary sense, their ignorance.” LightSun

 

[meowington]

We're all literally products of our parents. Plus we are heavily shaped in the first few years of our existence and the experiences that go along with it.
In that respect people's action, even far down the road, will always be a result of that.
That doesn't justify anything, but I always keep that in mind.
Practically every serial killer or child molester I've read about, had a troublesome youth.

edit : this is pretty much common knowledge, but just as easily overlooked.

 

[Julius_Van_Der_Beak]

As corny as it sounds, simple acts of kindness and understanding can truly be revolutionary.

 

[LightSun]

As corny as it sounds, simple acts of kindness and understanding can truly be revolutionary.

Hello Julius a quote coming from The Dalai Lama.

“Kindness is the key to peace and harmony in family life.” Dalai Lama