"Most girls aren't funny" they say

[chickpea]

i laugh at and with other women all the time, maybe some men are not sophisticated enough to understand the nuances of our sense of humor.

 

[Mind Maverick]

I used to be funny. Not really anymore

I've kind of felt the same way before. Once things started picking back up in my life and the episodes got more under control people started saying I was funny again. You've made me laugh several times recently and I think you're funny. It's just really difficult for anyone to keep that up once you reach a certain level of struggle, depression, and unhappiness...but that's not who people are, it's them feeling unwell. In other words, you are a funny person but you're going through difficulties right now, and that doesn't define you.

 

[Norrsken]

Society at large is still misogynistic and expects almost nothing from women, so even if she is genuinely funny, she'll still be held by standards much higher than if a man made the same joke.
Men who say that most girls or women aren't funny sounds to me like they're trying to neg a woman and knock her self esteem down a few pegs and well, that's just very sus and gross.

 

[Mind Maverick]

Society at large is still misogynistic and expects almost nothing from women, so even if she is genuinely funny, she'll still be held by standards much higher than if a man made the same joke.
Men who say that most girls or women aren't funny sounds to me like they're trying to neg a woman and knock her self esteem down a few pegs and well, that's just very sus and gross.

If these were random people I didn't know saying it, I'd say perhaps...but with these guys in particular, I've known some of them very well and they were nothing like this. One of the guys was actually my brother. He was talking about a crush he had at this particular time and he basically had the girl on a pedestal...he has this tendency to see all positives when he's crushing on someone. In his mind she was genuinely just "different than other girls." Also, she wasn't around when he was saying it about her. He was just going on about all these positive things about her.

I've considered they may be saying it for the opposite reason, to make the girl feel special, but I also know for certain that some of these guys were being sincere.



I will say though that thus far, all the guys I've heard say it have said it about girls they found attractive...so I wonder whether it could be a bias? If not a difference in interests / topics most girls joke about.

 

[Mole]

I make people laugh all during the day, although I never laugh myself. I have wondered how I do this.

The first thing is that I am spontaneous, I never plan to make someone laugh. The second thing is the timing. The third thing is that it comes as a surprise. And the fourth thing is that I am good humoured, and my good humour is expressed in my humour.

 

[The Cat]

in my experience men who say most women aren't funny don't really pay attention outside their own myopic interests. they relegate it to an attempt at flattery which is usually to foster some acquisition of one of their own myopic interests. Of course that is often subjective I suppose...I could have just lucked out by meeting many funny women, but I more rather suspect that just most people can be funny when they want to.

 

[The Cat]

I've heard this comment several times from guys that come from all different parts of the world. Normally it's said as a compliment to me; something along the lines of, "You're actually funny, which is cool because most girls aren't." (Weird since I always think I'm not.) I feel like asking among a larger group of people now - is this true based on your experience? Why do so many guys say this? Have you heard a lot of them say this to you before if you're a girl?

if you want to amuse yourself a bit, ask them how you're funny? and buckle up.

 

[Mind Maverick]

in my experience men who say most women aren't funny don't really pay attention outside their own myopic interests. they relegate it to an attempt at flattery which is usually to foster some acquisition of one of their own myopic interests. Of course that is often subjective I suppose...I could have just lucked out by meeting many funny women, but I more rather suspect that just most people can be funny when they want to.

Do you think this view some guys have could come from participation rather than ability then? As in like, girls not trying to be funny as often? (Perhaps they need it less for flirting, etc.?) Or do you think it's moreso just strictly what you mentioned?

 

[Jaq]

What, people say girls aren't funny?

 

[The Cat]

Do you think this view some guys have could come from participation rather than ability then? As in like, girls not trying to be funny as often? (Perhaps they need it less for flirting, etc.?) Or do you think it's moreso just strictly what you mentioned?

Forgive me, but...

I require elaboration.

 

[Mole]

I think there is no cultural imperative for women to be funny.

The cultural imperative for women is to be sexy but not sexual, to be motherly but not bossy, to be fashionable but not stand out, to be intelligent but not show it, to be slim but not anorexic.

By contrast men show their confidence by being funny. Men propose and women dispose. And disposal is not very funny.

 

[Mind Maverick]

Forgive me, but...

I require elaboration.

Lol sorry, I kind of had a feeling that wasn't very clear when I said it, too. I thought the additional sentence after would've clarified it enough, but I suppose not. My bad.

Actually, my question was just sort of off-topic in general. I got thrown off because I somehow managed to combine what someone else was saying to me in DMs elsewhere with what you were saying, and now that I reread I realize what I was asking really, really doesn't make sense.

Instead I'll ask - what do you mean by "acquisition of their own myopic interests?" Can you speak in more specific terms? Sometimes I don't do so well with generalized statements, they kind of go over my head. Do you have an example or something perhaps?

 

[Mole]

What, people say girls aren't funny?

Mostly men.

Women find the idea that women aren't funny offends their ego, and is they reject the very idea. Women think that the idea women aren't funny is simply not funny.

The truth is women find it hard to laugh at themselves.

 

[Mole]

Women fall in love through their ears, while men fall in love through their eyes.

So men make sexual display through humour, which reaches women through their ears.

And women make sexual display through appearance, which reaches men through their eyes.

Women listen, while men look.

 

[Mole]

Do you think that this has to do with insecurity then? Do you think pressures placed on women to be attractive, etc. cause them to be more insecure on average?

I think men display confidence, while women display beauty.

Confidence is expressed in humour, while beauty is not to be laughed at.

 

[The Cat]

Lol sorry, I kind of had a feeling that wasn't very clear when I said it, too. I thought the additional sentence after would've clarified it enough, but I suppose not. My bad.

Actually, my question was just sort of off-topic in general. I got thrown off because I somehow managed to combine what someone else was saying to me in DMs elsewhere with what you were saying, and now that I reread I realize what I was asking really, really doesn't make sense.

Instead I'll ask - what do you mean by "acquisition of their own myopic interests?" Can you speak in more specific terms? Sometimes I don't do so well with generalized statements, they kind of go over my head. Do you have an example or something perhaps?

They want something that interest them.

 

[Mole]

Most women know that men look, but most men don't know that women listen.

So women quite rightly think men are dumb.

 

[Mind Maverick]

They want something that interest them.

What if they already have the girl / it's their girlfriend? What if the girl is not around when they are saying it, and it's just bragging to people about her or complimenting her? What if they don't have an interest in the girl romantically and already are friends with benefits upon saying it? What do you think it would mean then? Still flattery?

I suspected possible flattery also, until taking note of these factors. Perhaps in your mind this doesn't stop it from being the case, however? Or perhaps you come up with alternate ideas I have not thought of...

 

[RadicalDoubt]

I've heard it in passing, but a person who doesn't always catch the difference between joke and serious (but stupid) statements, I always assumed it was a joke? As someone who also has 0 sense of humor, perhaps I'm not the best judge lol

 

[Mind Maverick]

I've heard it in passing, but a person who doesn't always catch the difference between joke and serious (but stupid) statements, I always assumed it was a joke? As someone who also has 0 sense of humor, perhaps I'm not the best judge lol

When you heard it in passing what was the context? If multiple people said it, were there any patterns? Who was it directed toward; was it love interests, or perhaps friends/acquaintances, were they flirting? Whatever details seem potentially significant.