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Hi!
I’ve finally found my type! It’s been a long journey, a quest for the mystical treasure full of perils and traps, but I could seize the prize and bring it back to share it with my community. I hope you will find some help in the insights I found.
This is a very long post, with a TL;DR at the end which is also too long. I tried to keep it brief, I swear! But there is so much to say…
I started like everybody else: a careless test on 16personalities. I came out as INTJ. From there, I read everything about MBTI and Jung and the Grant Stack, and tested myself, and read more, and got more confused. At one point, I opened a type-me tread here on TC with a telling title:
https://www.typologycentral.com/forums/what-s-my-type-/104166-please-help-type-xnxx.html
That was my only certainty: that I was a very strong N. The rest was a mess.
(If you want more background about me and my test results, please check that thread, but be aware that it’s almost 50 posts long!)
My mistake was that I relied too much on type descriptions, which are inconsistent. If you then cherry-pick, you could see yourself as any type: insightful, driven and isolated as an INTJ, analytical and aloof as an INTP, moody and self-absorbed as an INFJ, bossy, determined and bold as an ENTJ, curious, scattered and sensible as an xNFP, inspiring and charming as an ENFJ. I also changed a lot through the years, which muddied the waters even more.
But it all missed the point. What solved the problem was the Enneagram, crossed with MBTI, with a critical help from some friends here on TC: [MENTION=32874]Vendrah[/MENTION] and [MENTION=39780]noname3788[/MENTION].
(If you are familiar with the Enneagram, skip the spoiler, otherwise you’ll find in it a very brief overview, relevant to this discussion).
As this is an MBTI post, maybe we could use some MBTI to Enneagram correlations. It’s a strongly debated topic, I will just use the one in this link from now on (just as a reference to help reading this, not to get into a debate about it.)
Myers-Briggs / MBTI & Enneagram Correlations
Notice that adjacent types are more likely to cross-reference differently, for example INT to 4 or 6, or INF to 5.
It all clicked when I stumbled into this Enneagram resource: Typewatch Enneagram: Typewatch Enneagram Type Descriptions
If you aren’t familiar with the Enneagram, you will find it a bit overwhelming, but after some deep thought and introspection and looking at my behaviors, I found the pattern (my N at work):
(MBTI reference is mine)
Which brings me to 7. As you’ve seen, it correlates (almost unanimously) to EP types. So, the standard description is that 7 are fun-loving, spontaneous, gluttonous people. The are the life of the party. I don’t quite relate to this description, which is very geared towards S types (ESP, that is). So I usually dismissed the 7, which came out low in my tests. But this paragraph from Typewatch changed my perception forever.
That was me! The one trait that I always identified myself with is CURIOUS. I reviewed all my knowledge about typology, and it matched.
This could mean that I was, indeed, an ENP at least. So forget about J. I related much more to ENTP than to ENFP, mainly because I believe I’m a more Ti-Fe rather than Fi-Te, or, if you prefer, more T than F, although very balanced. (Ni vs Ne I always had a hard time with, but I knew Ne-Ti can look like Ni, so it could be ENTP after all).
I still had some doubts about the 5 though. Curiosity, knowledge… Could I be an INTP? Or even an INTJ as I initially tested? I started searching 5 vs 7, and found this:
Type 5 & Type 7? Very Confused | Personality Cafe
That was me perfectly! Could I be an Extrovert after all? Well, not an ES, but with my strong EN, yes! Ne, that is, being attracted towards the external object, the idea, the potential in the things of the world, being people but also concepts, plans, the future in general.
The last piece of conflicting information was my allegedly introversion in my young years. I was a shy kid, and a nerd as a teenager; I had to turn 16 to change course, and only when I was 25 you could say that I’ve fully bloomed and became who I am now, at least personality-wise (I’m 47 at the moment). I was said to be more mellow than my age when young, but young at heart now. Very incoherent, uh?
It turns out that ENTPs who were shy when young are quite common:
Can ENTPs be shy? - Quora
So, that was it: ENTP. In the Enneagram, type 7, of the intuitive breed, with an 8 wing.
All my typing problems make sense if you follow the Enneagram movements: tapping into 8 (ENTJ mode), sometimes into 6 when skeptically analyzing (INTP) or 1 when stressed (INTJ mode) or 5 (INTP-INFJ), put me all over the place in I-E and J-P dimensions. As I’m in my midlife, my auxiliary and tertiary functions are more balanced, which led to some F tendencies in test. And my Extroversion is more accommodating and charming than blunt like Te-dom. An ET with a touch of F, so to speak.
It fits nicely, actually, like an Agatha Christie’s mystery when solved.
ENTP 7w8, then.
TL; DR
I’m an ENTP. My Ne (or N with E) is so strong that I’m curious about everything, both about the idea of it and the actual experience. I’m not so fun loving as a sensor, but get very excited about novelty (E) and have the energy and drive to go after my N ideas. I’m rational and analytical (T), with Ti much more strong that Te (Why? more than How?). But I can tap in my ET and show Te if I so decide. But always with Fe being present.
I was raised by an ISFJ mother who taught me the power of detail, so I have a love-hate relationship with my inferior Si: I focus on it, can do it, but loathe it. This shows J tendencies, and makes me go to Enneagram 1 “The perfectionist†when I’m under pressure, to get what I want in life in general (a perfect exam, for example). Then I burn out, and feel the urge to escape from my super-ego!
I plan a lot, thinking about the next step, and the future, but it isn’t a “vision†and a strict plan like Ni-Te in NTJs, it’s just that I see through things, their essence (N) and enjoy rearranging these concepts in different, novel ways, much like Lego blocks, my favorite game when I was a kid. Words, activities, personality traits, cooking ingredients, they all are just pieces of ideas in my mind, which I play and tinker with, to see what could be. Eventually, I put into being some of these arrangements, but just a tiny fractions, there are so many of them!
The hardest part was understanding my Extroversion. I fitted the INT stereotype in my younger years, but I’m sure now: I have much more energy than my INTP friends; it’s just that I had a poorly developed Fe, which looked pretty much like inferior Fe, but it’s not. Preference, not behavior, they say. I was just shy, so with poor social skills. When I started to developed them, my change was spectacular.
I love my Fe now, and use it extensively. Nobody that has known me for less than 20 years would doubt my extroversion: I have a need to connect and s drive to be outside in the world of people and activities, much more than INs in general. But Ne is a tricky thing.
I can “emulate†(for lack of a better word) the leadership of a ENTJ, or the analytical skills of an INTP, or the vision of an INTJ, or the chameleonic sensibility of an INFJ, the enthusiasm of an ENFP, the charisma of an ENFJ, the dreaminess of an INFP… but in the end, I get tired of them all. I am a jack-of-all-trades more than anything, quite a stereotypical trait for an ENTP – Enneagram 7, actually.
I do that not for fear, power, status, perfectionism, knowledge or emotions: I just do it for fun: my curiosity about everything. My kind of fun, that is. I guess I’m just me, in my idiosyncratic way.
I hope you find this useful in some way. I felt the need to share it. I left quite a bit out, feel free to ask me it I was to dense at some point. I thank again [MENTION=32874]Vendrah[/MENTION] and [MENTION=39780]noname3788[/MENTION], without them I would not have come to this understanding. Thanks!
I’ve finally found my type! It’s been a long journey, a quest for the mystical treasure full of perils and traps, but I could seize the prize and bring it back to share it with my community. I hope you will find some help in the insights I found.
This is a very long post, with a TL;DR at the end which is also too long. I tried to keep it brief, I swear! But there is so much to say…
I started like everybody else: a careless test on 16personalities. I came out as INTJ. From there, I read everything about MBTI and Jung and the Grant Stack, and tested myself, and read more, and got more confused. At one point, I opened a type-me tread here on TC with a telling title:
https://www.typologycentral.com/forums/what-s-my-type-/104166-please-help-type-xnxx.html
That was my only certainty: that I was a very strong N. The rest was a mess.
(If you want more background about me and my test results, please check that thread, but be aware that it’s almost 50 posts long!)
My mistake was that I relied too much on type descriptions, which are inconsistent. If you then cherry-pick, you could see yourself as any type: insightful, driven and isolated as an INTJ, analytical and aloof as an INTP, moody and self-absorbed as an INFJ, bossy, determined and bold as an ENTJ, curious, scattered and sensible as an xNFP, inspiring and charming as an ENFJ. I also changed a lot through the years, which muddied the waters even more.
But it all missed the point. What solved the problem was the Enneagram, crossed with MBTI, with a critical help from some friends here on TC: [MENTION=32874]Vendrah[/MENTION] and [MENTION=39780]noname3788[/MENTION].
(If you are familiar with the Enneagram, skip the spoiler, otherwise you’ll find in it a very brief overview, relevant to this discussion).
The Enneagram is about core motivations and fears. It features 9 types, identified by numbers. They are arranged from 1 to 9 around a circle, with lines connecting each type to two non-adjacent types. The are many type descriptions, which are as misleading as the MBTI ones. I related to many: feeling different and unique as a 4, knowledge-seeking as a 5, multi-talented and versatile as a 7, self-sufficient as an 8, perfectionist as a 1, even result-oriented as a 3.
But the Enneagram has another dimension: it tells you that you can visit different types at some point, if it helps you or you feel like it.
You can always go to the two types next to yours (the one that you visit most is your wing). You can also move along the lines, in two directions. “Disintegratingâ€, when under stress or mobilizing to meet a challenge, you show the average and unhealthy traits of your disintegration type. “Integratingâ€, when overcoming your fixations, you show the average and healthy traits of your integration type.
But the Enneagram has another dimension: it tells you that you can visit different types at some point, if it helps you or you feel like it.
You can always go to the two types next to yours (the one that you visit most is your wing). You can also move along the lines, in two directions. “Disintegratingâ€, when under stress or mobilizing to meet a challenge, you show the average and unhealthy traits of your disintegration type. “Integratingâ€, when overcoming your fixations, you show the average and healthy traits of your integration type.
As this is an MBTI post, maybe we could use some MBTI to Enneagram correlations. It’s a strongly debated topic, I will just use the one in this link from now on (just as a reference to help reading this, not to get into a debate about it.)
Myers-Briggs / MBTI & Enneagram Correlations
Myers-Briggs & Enneagram Types
Introverts (4, 5, 6, 9) — Extraverts (3, 7, 8)
Sensors (6) — Intuitives (4, 5)
Thinkers (3, 5, 8) — Feelers (2, 4, 9)
Judgers (1, 8) — Perceivers (7, 9)
Enneagram Types & MBTI Preferences
Type 1 (J)
Type 2 (F)
Type 3 (E, T)
Type 4 (I, N, F)
Type 5 (I, N, T)
Type 6 (I, S)
Type 7 (E, P)
Type 8 (E, T, J)
Type 9 (I, F, P)
Notice that adjacent types are more likely to cross-reference differently, for example INT to 4 or 6, or INF to 5.
It all clicked when I stumbled into this Enneagram resource: Typewatch Enneagram: Typewatch Enneagram Type Descriptions
If you aren’t familiar with the Enneagram, you will find it a bit overwhelming, but after some deep thought and introspection and looking at my behaviors, I found the pattern (my N at work):
3 (ET) is very image oriented, needs to achieve in order to be appreciated; I like that, but in the end I do what please me more
4 (INF) needs to be different to have a self-image; I feel I am different from most people, but feel more the need to belong
5 (INT) is curious and wants knowledge, which I relate strongly to, but does that to overcome and underlying fear of not being able to cope with the world, which I find kind of alien
8 (ENJ) are strong-willed, like I believe I am, but also street-smart and instinctive, which I’m not
1 (J) are perfectionistic and idealistic, which I relate to, but I loathe following rules.
(MBTI reference is mine)
Which brings me to 7. As you’ve seen, it correlates (almost unanimously) to EP types. So, the standard description is that 7 are fun-loving, spontaneous, gluttonous people. The are the life of the party. I don’t quite relate to this description, which is very geared towards S types (ESP, that is). So I usually dismissed the 7, which came out low in my tests. But this paragraph from Typewatch changed my perception forever.
(bolding is mine)Sevens have addictive personalities. They tend to be adventurous, impulsive, exciting, and enthusiastic. The more common sensing-perceiving sevens tend to be focused on more physical gluttony and are the typical party animals. The less common intuitive seven is no less addictive but has as much a need for mental stimulation as a need for physical stimulation. All sevens need the potential for a more fulfulling life more than anything. They need something better in their future to look forward to. The one thing a seven wouldn't relate to in a million years is contentment and a lack of wants.
That was me! The one trait that I always identified myself with is CURIOUS. I reviewed all my knowledge about typology, and it matched.
This could mean that I was, indeed, an ENP at least. So forget about J. I related much more to ENTP than to ENFP, mainly because I believe I’m a more Ti-Fe rather than Fi-Te, or, if you prefer, more T than F, although very balanced. (Ni vs Ne I always had a hard time with, but I knew Ne-Ti can look like Ni, so it could be ENTP after all).
I still had some doubts about the 5 though. Curiosity, knowledge… Could I be an INTP? Or even an INTJ as I initially tested? I started searching 5 vs 7, and found this:
Type 5 & Type 7? Very Confused | Personality Cafe
Fives can be intense and can experience manic states; Sevens can be cerebral and frequently underestimate the extent of their extroversion and their need for external stimulation. So, while the two types are quite different in many respects, a mistype is possible. In particular, it is the Seven who might mistype as a Five; the reverse almost never occurs. Nevertheless, Sevens are much more open to experience of all sorts than are Fives who become easily depleted by too much stimulation. Sevens really are true extroverts (whether they recognize this or not) whereas Fives, even social Fives, are primarily introverted. And while Fives can become scattered and even manic under stress, the overall pattern of their life reveals that this is more the exception than the rule.
(bolding is again mine)Although Fives do not tend to mistype as Seven, some Sevens do initially mistype as Five. Sevens and Fives are both thinking types who generally enjoy a wide range of intellectual and cultural activities. Both types can be idiosyncratic and counter-cultural, and Fives can become scattered and lose focus like Sevens. Nevertheless, Fives tend to be far more focused on their individual intellectual activities than are Sevens. In addition, Sevens are extroverts whereas Fives are true introverts, often pursuing a line of thought until they take it to the very end, unlike Sevens who tend to move on when the intellectual work becomes too immersed in detail. Sevens frequently underestimate the extent of their extroversion, giving them the sense that they are more Five-like than they actually are. Because they sometimes enjoy their time alone, they reason, they could not truly be extroverts. The overall pattern of the Seven's life, however, ought to reveal the pattern of seeking distraction by way of engaging others. The Five's life should reveal a pronounced pattern of withdrawing under stress.
That was me perfectly! Could I be an Extrovert after all? Well, not an ES, but with my strong EN, yes! Ne, that is, being attracted towards the external object, the idea, the potential in the things of the world, being people but also concepts, plans, the future in general.
The last piece of conflicting information was my allegedly introversion in my young years. I was a shy kid, and a nerd as a teenager; I had to turn 16 to change course, and only when I was 25 you could say that I’ve fully bloomed and became who I am now, at least personality-wise (I’m 47 at the moment). I was said to be more mellow than my age when young, but young at heart now. Very incoherent, uh?
It turns out that ENTPs who were shy when young are quite common:
Can ENTPs be shy? - Quora
So, that was it: ENTP. In the Enneagram, type 7, of the intuitive breed, with an 8 wing.
All my typing problems make sense if you follow the Enneagram movements: tapping into 8 (ENTJ mode), sometimes into 6 when skeptically analyzing (INTP) or 1 when stressed (INTJ mode) or 5 (INTP-INFJ), put me all over the place in I-E and J-P dimensions. As I’m in my midlife, my auxiliary and tertiary functions are more balanced, which led to some F tendencies in test. And my Extroversion is more accommodating and charming than blunt like Te-dom. An ET with a touch of F, so to speak.
It fits nicely, actually, like an Agatha Christie’s mystery when solved.
ENTP 7w8, then.
TL; DR
I’m an ENTP. My Ne (or N with E) is so strong that I’m curious about everything, both about the idea of it and the actual experience. I’m not so fun loving as a sensor, but get very excited about novelty (E) and have the energy and drive to go after my N ideas. I’m rational and analytical (T), with Ti much more strong that Te (Why? more than How?). But I can tap in my ET and show Te if I so decide. But always with Fe being present.
I was raised by an ISFJ mother who taught me the power of detail, so I have a love-hate relationship with my inferior Si: I focus on it, can do it, but loathe it. This shows J tendencies, and makes me go to Enneagram 1 “The perfectionist†when I’m under pressure, to get what I want in life in general (a perfect exam, for example). Then I burn out, and feel the urge to escape from my super-ego!
I plan a lot, thinking about the next step, and the future, but it isn’t a “vision†and a strict plan like Ni-Te in NTJs, it’s just that I see through things, their essence (N) and enjoy rearranging these concepts in different, novel ways, much like Lego blocks, my favorite game when I was a kid. Words, activities, personality traits, cooking ingredients, they all are just pieces of ideas in my mind, which I play and tinker with, to see what could be. Eventually, I put into being some of these arrangements, but just a tiny fractions, there are so many of them!
The hardest part was understanding my Extroversion. I fitted the INT stereotype in my younger years, but I’m sure now: I have much more energy than my INTP friends; it’s just that I had a poorly developed Fe, which looked pretty much like inferior Fe, but it’s not. Preference, not behavior, they say. I was just shy, so with poor social skills. When I started to developed them, my change was spectacular.
I love my Fe now, and use it extensively. Nobody that has known me for less than 20 years would doubt my extroversion: I have a need to connect and s drive to be outside in the world of people and activities, much more than INs in general. But Ne is a tricky thing.
I can “emulate†(for lack of a better word) the leadership of a ENTJ, or the analytical skills of an INTP, or the vision of an INTJ, or the chameleonic sensibility of an INFJ, the enthusiasm of an ENFP, the charisma of an ENFJ, the dreaminess of an INFP… but in the end, I get tired of them all. I am a jack-of-all-trades more than anything, quite a stereotypical trait for an ENTP – Enneagram 7, actually.
I do that not for fear, power, status, perfectionism, knowledge or emotions: I just do it for fun: my curiosity about everything. My kind of fun, that is. I guess I’m just me, in my idiosyncratic way.
I hope you find this useful in some way. I felt the need to share it. I left quite a bit out, feel free to ask me it I was to dense at some point. I thank again [MENTION=32874]Vendrah[/MENTION] and [MENTION=39780]noname3788[/MENTION], without them I would not have come to this understanding. Thanks!