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Toxic Feminism

When you think "feminism", what do you think of?


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jixmixfix

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I don't think about power, politics or race much at all (other than disliking our current president). So I don't talk about those things. There was a time when affirmative action was a bigger thing. I was very against it because it openly discriminated against people like me. It's still an issue in certain areas. You get preferential treatment if you are considered a minority in admission to colleges, have more opportunities for scholarships, etc. it just seems rather unfair.
Affirmative acrion is a quota used to descriminate people based on their race and gender or order to create opportunity of outcome. Its racist and sexist in nature and pushes society backwards not forward. It's like giving a short person a free pass to double dribble because hes short and cant compete in the nba.
 

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I appreciate you asking me questions instead of 'telling me what I think."


It doesn't even compute in my mind to blame men. Systems emerge and take on a life of their own (they operate independently of the people). This is why it can be said that there are ways in which Patriarchy oppresses men...and ways in which women uphold Patriarchy in spite of claiming it oppresses them. You can say the system is to blame...or that men and women are equally to blame (an example I often use concerns organized religion. What is more Patriarchal and discriminatory towards women than organized religion? Yet in every nation woman are far more likely to be devout and to drag the men in their lives to church...insisting the men in their lives be good organized religion participators.) I hate to break it to yah...but no. I don't blame men.
Patriarchy theory by feminists definition describes a system which benefits men at the expense of women. So how can a system that benefits men be oppressive to men? Organized religion isn't necessarily a bad thing cultures revolve around religion to uphold their societies. Christianity encouraged capitalism which helped shape and structure the west into the free trade powerhouse that it was.
Likewise, I missed the part where being a feminist means you believe in extracting resources from men. Perhaps I'm a bad feminist because I'm 100% against doing that. I am probably more against Affirmative Action and entitlements than you are and I mean that literally. I remember hearing of this as a child even and knowing it was a terrible idea and would cause precisely what is occurring now. While I have no interest in dedicating my life to it...if I could put an end to it myself I would do so in a heartbeat. I shutter at the thought of some dead beat dude with half the intelligence I have blaming women and minorities for what is rightly his own incompetence and inability to obtain/sustain a job. I will go to my grave insisting things should have been done differently.
Feminists push for entitlements and privileges such as the right to abortion at the expense of tax payer money. Having an abortion without the man's say in the matter because "my body my choice" even though it is not just your baby it's another body as well. Having full custody of children while requiring child support benefits from the father even though he has no say on abortion. Affirmative action is another one that encourages women into stem by providing government subsidies while simultaneously taking away another man's opportunity to enter the field.
As for the rest of what you wrote...I agree that things are pretty fucked-up in some ways...possibly better in others though. But I disagree that things were heavenly prior to 1920...and only then became immoral because of feminism. Yah no...I just don't buy into that.

The family structure began to die as soon as 1st and second wave feminism began to really push. Things weren't better before because we didn't have the technology back then and relied on manual labour, risk taking and heavy jobs to make money but the family unit was far more secure.
 

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Patriarchy theory by feminists definition describes a system which benefits men at the expense of women. So how can a system that benefits men be oppressive to men? Organized religion isn't necessarily a bad thing cultures revolve around religion to uphold their societies. Christianity encouraged capitalism which helped shape and structure the west into the free trade powerhouse that it was.

Feminists push for entitlements and privileges such as the right to abortion at the expense of tax payer money. Having an abortion without the man's say in the matter because "my body my choice" even though it is not just your baby it's another body as well. Having full custody of children while requiring child support benefits from the father even though he has no say on abortion. Affirmative action is another one that encourages women into stem by providing government subsidies while simultaneously taking away another man's opportunity to enter the field.


The family structure began to die as soon as 1st and second wave feminism began to really push. Things weren't better before because we didn't have the technology back then and relied on manual labour, risk taking and heavy jobs to make money but the family unit was far more secure.

This line of reasoning is leading me to ask weather you think a woman can be raped by her husband/so?
 

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To understand the USA the movie I Am Not Your Negro is essential. It is essential for Americans and for those trying to understand the USA. Click on YouTube

It does show how Americans are addicted to fantasy at the expense of reality. I thought it was just mbti that was addicted to fantasy, but it is normal across the USA.

I guess more money is spent on fantasy in the USA than on warfare. So fantasy is very big business.
 

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Nothing could be further from the truth actually nationalist/libertarian sentiments are growing while socialist/ feminist sentiments are falling. You do know that Donald Trump is your president right? what trends in popular culture could have possibly caused that to happen? hmmmmm.
I'm sure you are familiar with the expression: two steps forward, one step back? Our trajectory on social issues is obvious to anyone who bothers to look back more than a couple of generations.

You might want to scrub that line from your repertoire.
Again, taking the short view.

Affirmative acrion is a quota used to descriminate people based on their race and gender or order to create opportunity of outcome. Its racist and sexist in nature and pushes society backwards not forward. It's like giving a short person a free pass to double dribble because hes short and cant compete in the nba.
I haven't seen anyone defend affirmative action here.

Patriarchy theory by feminists definition describes a system which benefits men at the expense of women. So how can a system that benefits men be oppressive to men? Organized religion isn't necessarily a bad thing cultures revolve around religion to uphold their societies. Christianity encouraged capitalism which helped shape and structure the west into the free trade powerhouse that it was.
Ivan the Terrible experienced significant pain most of his life due to a medical condition, and at one point tried to get some respite in the country. No dice. His court followed him there, making the usual demands on his time and attention. Point is: he could no more stop being king than the peasants in the fields could stop being peasants. The society of the time bound them all in their roles. His authority and privilege came with costs. Same with men in a patriarchal system. Much has been said about the costs borne by women under such a system. The constructive MRA folks do a good job of pointing out where they did benefit: exemption from the draft; more favorable treatment in divorce and custody proceedings; more lenient prison sentences than men for the same crime. Even the whole "women and children first" mentality. Well, women are not children, and most of us don't want to be treated as such. "Benefits" that come at the cost of full adulthood and independence are not worth the cost. These inequities need to change, on both sides.

Feminists push for entitlements and privileges such as the right to abortion at the expense of tax payer money. Having an abortion without the man's say in the matter because "my body my choice" even though it is not just your baby it's another body as well. Having full custody of children while requiring child support benefits from the father even though he has no say on abortion. Affirmative action is another one that encourages women into stem by providing government subsidies while simultaneously taking away another man's opportunity to enter the field.
This is too convoluted to address. Lots of assumptions, errors, lapses in logic, etc.

The family structure began to die as soon as 1st and second wave feminism began to really push. Things weren't better before because we didn't have the technology back then and relied on manual labour, risk taking and heavy jobs to make money but the family unit was far more secure.
"The" family? Exactly which or whose family do you mean here? The family structure that requires a woman's dependence on and subservience to a man should die. Fortunately today, we understand that "family" includes more than mom, dad, and 2.2 kids. It always has, and always will. Now, it might be fair to say that, in modern society, people play too fast and loose with their commitments. I would agree with that, and it affects far more than marriage, but that is a topic for another thread.
 

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Yes it's possible they can be raped, rare but possible.

Ok. Well we could go into that in another post. What do you make of this yale study?

Study shows gender bias in science is real. Here's why it matters. - Scientific American Blog Network


The only difference in applications is that male and female names were used on the application forms to highlight the imbalance.

"Whenever the subject of women in science comes up, there are people fiercely committed to the idea that sexism does not exist. They will point to everything and anything else to explain differences while becoming angry and condescending if you even suggest that discrimination could be a factor. But these people are wrong. This data shows they are wrong. And if you encounter them, you can now use this study to inform them they’re wrong. You can say that a study found that absolutely all other factors held equal, females are discriminated against in science. Sexism exists. It’s real. Certainly, you cannot and should not argue it’s everything. But no longer can you argue it’s nothing."
 

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Again, taking the short view.
This is where the Church Of Leftism starts to sound like those christians who keep declaring that the book of revelation is soon upon us. I guarantee you have as accurate a grip on the future as they do.

"The" family? Exactly which or whose family do you mean here? The family structure that requires a woman's dependence on and subservience to a man should die.

Toxic tenant of feminism #302
 

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Toxic tenant of feminism #302

Consider how threatened you are by the left and the idea of them having power over you. Then consider a woman being threatened by the idea of a man having power over them. Then think about your definition of toxic feminism.
 

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I'm sure you are familiar with the expression: two steps forward, one step back? Our trajectory on social issues is obvious to anyone who bothers to look back more than a couple of generations.
Yeah but that's not the case here, there are various reasons why trump won and I think a good part of that is the anti feminist sentiments that have been growing.



I haven't seen anyone defend affirmative action here.
All you do is defend it, you defend government subsides and welfare all day providing it as a solutions to all life's problems even in this very response.
His authority and privilege came with costs.
Sorry but in what ways is authority a privilege if it comes at a cost? that doesn't sound very privileged being the disposible sex and all. Yet for some reason feminists label it as privilege as if they never experience an ounce of responsibility in all of their lives.
Same with men in a patriarchal system. Much has been said about the costs borne by women under such a system. The constructive MRA folks do a good job of pointing out where they did benefit: exemption from the draft; more favorable treatment in divorce and custody proceedings; more lenient prison sentences than men for the same crime. Even the whole "women and children first" mentality. Well, women are not children, and most of us don't want to be treated as such. "Benefits" that come at the cost of full adulthood and independence are not worth the cost. These inequities need to change, on both sides.
So now you admit women benefit from a patriarchal system? so tell me in what ways does patriarchy oppress women? do your arguments have logical consistency at all?
This is too convoluted to address. Lots of assumptions, errors, lapses in logic, etc.
No you just don't know how to address it.

"The" family? Exactly which or whose family do you mean here? The family structure that requires a woman's dependence on and subservience to a man should die.
So traditional men go to work paving roads, working in coal mines and bring home that money to support his wife while she stays home to take care of her children and you think that a women is being subservient to the man? or is the man being subservient to the women?

Fortunately today, we understand that "family" includes more than mom, dad, and 2.2 kids. It always has, and always will. Now, it might be fair to say that, in modern society, people play too fast and loose with their commitments. I would agree with that, and it affects far more than marriage, but that is a topic for another thread.

Sorry to break it to you commies but the only people who truly give crap about you are your family and when that's gone maybe some really close friends. The government will only use you to gain more power and use excuses in the form of welfare to tax the middle class. Domestic violence is multi billion dollar industry, divorce is multi billion droller industry and we work like slaves to support it.
 

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When I think of feminism, I think of Salome
 

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I do not. And that's why this thread has a problem. Men bashers=/= feminism. Men bashers=men bashers.

This. I consider myself a feminist and often disagreed with her. She was clearly highly intelligent and quick witted, but that doesn't always garantee a civil discussion style or sensible positions.
 

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Patriarchy theory by feminists definition describes a system which benefits men at the expense of women. So how can a system that benefits men be oppressive to men? Organized religion isn't necessarily a bad thing cultures revolve around religion to uphold their societies. Christianity encouraged capitalism which helped shape and structure the west into the free trade powerhouse that it was.

I've read stuff on "there are ways in which Patriarchy can/will be oppressive to men" but I don't remember anything specific. <-And honestly for what I was referring to I don't think it is necessary that anything specific actually occurs or is experienced. I believe the concept here is merely meant as a reminder that we are both subject to a system and in this way neither one of us is free.

Organized religion... I think you will appreciate this story -> When I was 3 we were in church. And in the spirit of Advent... whomever was speaking at the time closed with a rather dramatic "The King is coming...the King is coming...the King is coming." To which I yelled back "Hey! What about the Queen?" My parent's tell me I was really appalled with this individual for having been so careless to have left out half of the story...and interestingly...I still feel the same way.

Still, I can't say I think organized religion is bad or all bad...I really like the sense of community and social/civil responsibility aspects of the church and feel I will soon start looking for one for myself here. I just have always found it amazing as it flies counter to what I would think... that of the most influential women in feminism...most of them have been super Christian. I'm not sure how they reconciled the two.


Feminists push for entitlements and privileges such as the right to abortion at the expense of tax payer money. Having an abortion without the man's say in the matter because "my body my choice" even though it is not just your baby it's another body as well. Having full custody of children while requiring child support benefits from the father even though he has no say on abortion. Affirmative action is another one that encourages women into stem by providing government subsidies while simultaneously taking away another man's opportunity to enter the field.

The family structure began to die as soon as 1st and second wave feminism began to really push. Things weren't better before because we didn't have the technology back then and relied on manual labour, risk taking and heavy jobs to make money but the family unit was far more secure.


^^I could argue against the above and work to try and put certain statements back into context but it would be a waste of time right? I will never understand why you chose a site dedicated to personality theory as an audience...but you're not actually open to the things I say right?...you're here to cast feminism in as negative light as possible. <-And with that being the case I really don't want to stand in your way.


Let me ask you though...are you okay with Affirmative Action for men? When JFK's Affirmative Action hit the ground running in 1961 it didn't originally include women/sex/gender...you know that right? I'm asking because the way you talk about entitlements and privileges you would think feminists created AA and forced the president to sign it. But for those of us that get our history from history books...we know that that is not accurate. Affirmative Action was amended later on to include women so I was wondering if you were okay with AA until it was rewritten to include women...? Are you okay with all the ways in which AA has protected and assisted men since men can be drafted? [I'd like to take this time to reiterate though that I am personally against AA]

Also...do you think women should be allowed to work outside the home?

Thanks in advance for answering
 

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Consider how threatened you are by the left and the idea of them having power over you. Then consider a woman being threatened by the idea of a man having power over them. Then think about your definition of toxic feminism.
If I had the choice to select which leftist organizations could tell me what to do (including none of them) I would cease to feel in any way threatened by that and would actually welcome it.

Last I checked we were not a country of arranged marriages.

Feminism is like an abusive husband the state forces you to marry and get raped by daily. It doesn't give you any choices of your own.
 

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I've read stuff on "there are ways in which Patriarchy can/will be oppressive to men" but I don't remember anything specific. <-And honestly for what I was referring to I don't think it is necessary that anything specific actually occurs or is experienced. I believe the concept here is merely meant as a reminder that we are both subject to a system and in this way neither one of us is free.

It doesn't make any sense unless you actually consider the idea that patriarchy doesn't benefit men and then you can't have the idea of women being oppressed by men through the patriarchy.

^^I could argue against the above and work to try and put certain statements back into context but it would be a waste of time right? I will never understand why you chose a site dedicated to personality theory as an audience...but you're not actually open to the things I say right?...you're here to cast feminism in as negative light as possible. <-And with that being the case I really don't want to stand in your way.
Why not it's an open discussion forum where I wish to practice my freedom of speech.

Let me ask you though...are you okay with Affirmative Action for men?
No

When JFK's Affirmative Action hit the ground running in 1961 it didn't originally include women/sex/gender...you know that right? I'm asking because the way you talk about entitlements and privileges you would think feminists created AA and forced the president to sign it.
I'm sure they influenced it one way or another, women had the vote so at the time women were now a major factor in politics that couldn't be ignored.
But for those of us that get our history from history books...we know that that is not accurate. Affirmative Action was amended later on to include women so I was wondering if you were okay with AA until it was rewritten to include women...?
Nope AA is cancer in my eyes.
Are you okay with all the ways in which AA has protected and assisted men since men can be drafted? [I'd like to take this time to reiterate though that I am personally against AA]
Protected men how?
Also...do you think women should be allowed to work outside the home?
Women should be able to do whatever they choose as long as it's not being funded by people's tax dollars. That included staying at home to raise children or going to work and hiring a nanny etc.
 

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Why does she represent it more than someone else? How did she earn that?
The man hatred thing might have something to do with it. I guess it relates to how you define the word. When I think of the word feminism, I think of the extremist wackos.
 

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Yeah but that's not the case here, there are various reasons why trump won and I think a good part of that is the anti feminist sentiments that have been growing.
Sure, certain segments of the population have been doing their best to vilify feminists, just as was done to "nigger-lovers" abolitionists in their day. It is a legitimate criticism of feminists that they have not adopted the most effective strategies to combat that.

All you do is defend it, you defend government subsides and welfare all day providing it as a solutions to all life's problems even in this very response.
This directly contradicts statements I have made on several threads, including this one.

Sorry but in what ways is authority a privilege if it comes at a cost? that doesn't sound very privileged being the disposible sex and all. Yet for some reason feminists label it as privilege as if they never experience an ounce of responsibility in all of their lives.
Do you think anyone is privileged? There is always a cost, even if the privileged person does not recognize that, or chooses to accept it, just like Ivan.

So now you admit women benefit from a patriarchal system? so tell me in what ways does patriarchy oppress women? do your arguments have logical consistency at all?
Nothing is 100% or completely black/white. The benefits given to women under a patriarchal system are very similar to the benefits given to children. Treating a competent adult as a child is oppression. Blacks in South Africa were treated this way. I recall a story about Nelson Mandela's years in jail there. The men (grown, black men) were made to wear shorts all year round, even when it was cold and snowy, because they were treated as "boys", and boys wore short pants then.

No you just don't know how to address it.
Wishful thinking. Apparently you cannot distinguish between inability, and simply having better things to do with my time.

So traditional men go to work paving roads, working in coal mines and bring home that money to support his wife while she stays home to take care of her children and you think that a women is being subservient to the man? or is the man being subservient to the women?
You are discussing a division of labor. I am discussing a power imbalance. One does not require the other, which is a significant part of my point. If husband and wife mutually agree to what you describe, and make decisions about the family together, there is no subservience or oppression.

Sorry to break it to you commies but the only people who truly give crap about you are your family and when that's gone maybe some really close friends. The government will only use you to gain more power and use excuses in the form of welfare to tax the middle class. Domestic violence is multi billion dollar industry, divorce is multi billion droller industry and we work like slaves to support it.
This does not address my comment, at all, as I did not dismiss the importance of family, just the idea that there is only one configuration for family.
 

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Sure, certain segments of the population have been doing their best to vilify feminists, just as was done to "nigger-lovers" abolitionists in their day. It is a legitimate criticism of feminists that they have not adopted the most effective strategies to combat that.
In the words of Milo Yannopolis "Feminism is cancer".
This directly contradicts statements I have made on several threads, including this one.
No it doesn't
Do you think anyone is privileged? There is always a cost, even if the privileged person does not recognize that, or chooses to accept it, just like Ivan.
No I don't think any class or race is privileged. There is no such thing as "white privilege" or "male privilege" this is propaganda perpetuated by the left. If you were born in a free and wealthy nation and are not sick or disabled that all the privilege you have ,which you should be thankful for..
Nothing is 100% or completely black/white. The benefits given to women under a patriarchal system are very similar to the benefits given to children. Treating a competent adult as a child is oppression. Blacks in South Africa were treated this way. I recall a story about Nelson Mandela's years in jail there. The men (grown, black men) were made to wear shorts all year round, even when it was cold and snowy, because they were treated as "boys", and boys wore short pants then.

They had different roles and responsibility and were required to work according to their ability. A women is not as competent as a man especially when it comes to physical labor. Women and men both have strengths and weaknessess biologically. The sooner you realize this the less brainwashed you will become.



You are discussing a division of labor. I am discussing a power imbalance. One does not require the other, which is a significant part of my point. If husband and wife mutually agree to what you describe, and make decisions about the family together, there is no subservience or oppression.
Most husbands and wives agreed to their roles at the time because fighting against biology does not do you any favors when it comes to survival. I'm talking about money gained from doing manual labor which a woman cannot keep up with.
This does not address my comment, at all, as I did not dismiss the importance of family, just the idea that there is only one configuration for family.

That is questionable but another topic all together.
 
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