Julius_Van_Der_Beak
Fallen
- Joined
- Jul 24, 2008
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- MBTI Type
- EVIL
- Enneagram
- 5w6
- Instinctual Variant
- sp/so
Let's talk about opposing someone's speech while still respecting their rights and dignity. Basically, opposing what someone says while still respecting their right to say it. I'm interested in thoughts regarding how you'd go about this and also examples. Do you feel this is something you do well or at all? Do you aim for it in your interactions with others and in your politics? I'm also interested in discussion centered around the differences between thought, speech, and action.
I think I'm pretty good at it, but I don't really show it much because this can put me at the center of a conflict for which I doubt my ability to successfully navigate. Essentially, this usually results in getting hit from both sides, which I don't know how to deal with. (Perhaps I should be bolder in this regard.) If I do have issues with someone who has different views, often I find that that it's more due to personality type (mbti and enneagram) than the actual views. I've noticed that even people who agree with me who have that enneagram and mbti type often grate on me, though not always.
I think some of my tendency to respect people with opposing views has to do with a few factors.
- I find it difficult to find an objective angle on many political topics. I'm uncomfortable expressing something with a lot of conviction that I recognize is so subjective. I find it hard to flat out tell people they are wrong when I'm not 100% convinced of the certainty of what I'm saying.
- I tend to have a skeptical and doubting nature which is that I'm not entirely convinced that I have a handle on the "correct" way to approach something.
- I prefer humor about political topics to a more dramatic approach. I'd rather watch something like the Colbert report than MSNBC. I think this is an Alpha Quadra thing.
- I would often rather find out the actual truth of a situation rather than reinforce the feeling that I'm "right." I'm wary of reinforcing confirmation bias.
- I think ideas which cannot withstand criticism are ideas not worth having. To quote Tyrion Lannister, cutting off a man's tongue only shows that you fear what they have to say.
- I recognize that there are instances and cases where I fail to live up to my ideas and values. Given this, I find it distasteful to adopt a tone of self-righteousness, because I have an awareness that I am not entirely innocent.
- I think I'm more offended by logical inconsistency and irrationality than I am by different views. It bothers me more if someone states something when the same post that goes against the premises stated earlier in the post. If a particular statement follows from a particular axiom, it might not bother me even if I have some doubts about the original axiom. I do recognize, however, that people's views are subject to change and can fluctuate.
- I enjoy when other people get into heated arguments about these things and I think it spices things up, provided it's not a distraction from what I'm currently trying to accomplish.