[Type 7] The 7 Depression Thread

[Forever]

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I was talking about item loving a 7 would partake in to probably 4ish specialness and 9ish. Just tritype talk.

 

[ZNP-TBA]

I was talking about item loving a 7 would partake in to probably 4ish specialness and 9ish. Just tritype talk.

Very cool but cannot relate.

 

[Forever]

Very cool but cannot relate.

Oh. are you more of the true 7 NP who just picks up anything and is good at it?

 

[Forever]

Well if anything, I'm one of the most bored people you'll ever meet. Like I'll do fun stuff with you, but I'll get bored of anything real quick maybe it's because of depression. But I've been bored since high school and things only give me little pleasure. But I hide my feelings of sadness pretty well, well... Until you see me on webcam like [MENTION=23213]GarrotTheThief[/MENTION] did one time. :c

 

[ZNP-TBA]

Oh. are you more of the true 7 NP who just picks up anything and is good at it?

You seem like you put a lot of time and interest into your hobbies even if they are full of variety. My excitement has a time limit and I'll usually get bored before making an ongoing project of it. But yeah I'm usually good at most things I do.

 

[Forever]

You seem like you put a lot of time and interest into your hobbies even if they are full of variety. My excitement has a time limit and I'll usually get bored before making an ongoing project of it. But yeah I'm usually good at most things I do.

I see! Well thank you Mr. ZNP. I feel like I have ADD sometimes but yeah finishing can be tough when there's just so many other things out there making sure I take advantage of the right possibility at the right time. I'm sure it can be very tough for you guys because it's probably accented for you further with Ne.

 

[Masokissed]

So I thought about it and I might be slightly depressed, at least when thinking of the 7 type. So basically, especially being of the Sx variety, we're non-committal as fuck. At first I thought this might have something to do with maturity. In my 20s (I'm early 30s now)I bounced around through out several workplaces ( even with the benefit of 6 years of military experience) and I couldn't hold on to a relationship to save my life (mostly because I didn't want to after some point). Maybe getting a little older helped me stabilize as far as working goes and I'm willing to give committed relationships a real shot but I always end up unsatisfied and/or disinterested at some point. This is more true in relationships than work since my career is very satisfying full of possibilities. It's usually not the other person's fault. They are actually the same as when I met them ( when I perceived it as more exciting) but once the relationship is settled in then the luminosity of it tends to dim. It fucking sucks because I'm usually thinking "Oh crap, I'm starting to get disinterested AGAIN!" Then it sucks when I want to talk to a partner about it because they begin to feel shitty and lose confidence in themselves because I'm not excited about the relationship anymore and it usually spirals into disintegration from that point. Are 7s doomed to just never be really satisfied, enough to want to settle?

Yeah, yeah. I've been with more people than I have fingers on my hand in the last year.

 

[Masokissed]

Well if anything, I'm one of the most bored people you'll ever meet. Like I'll do fun stuff with you, but I'll get bored of anything real quick maybe it's because of depression. But I've been bored since high school and things only give me little pleasure. But I hide my feelings of sadness pretty well, well... Until you see me on webcam like [MENTION=23213]GarrotTheThief[/MENTION] did one time. :c

"I'm bored" is probably what I've said most in my life.

 

[Forever]

"I'm bored" is probably what I've said most in my life.

I can relate so hard to this.

 

[ZNP-TBA]

Yeah, yeah. I've been with more people than I have fingers on my hand in the last year.

Right on. Just because I get bored with someone doesn't mean I look for another partner. I just get consumed with another interest ( which isn't necessarily another sexual endeavor).

 

[Dreamer]

I see! Well thank you Mr. ZNP. I feel like I have ADD sometimes but yeah finishing can be tough when there's just so many other things out there making sure I take advantage of the right possibility at the right time. I'm sure it can be very tough for you guys because it's probably accented for you further with Ne.

I'm still trying to figure out my enneagram and tritype so my experience has little meaning at this point, but i wouldn't confuse 7 with boredom. That's what it may appear on the surface, but for me, the "7" comes through in a deep fear of facing my harsh realities and history. What have I learned over the years of how to cope with that? Run. Literally and figuratively lol. So I'm out consuming all this mental distraction so that I can live in the moment and for a brief time, forget my problems and leave them behind me. Most likely why ENFPs and ENTPs for that matter, associate with 7, is because they have Ne as their dominant function, so they are already adept at playing with the world around them and feeding this insatiable appetite for knowledge the world contains. So, boredom may be one factor, but I feel it's really just a part of it. There is definitely something deeper beneath the surface that makes 7s so hyperactive in trying new things.

 

[ZNP-TBA]

I see! Well thank you Mr. ZNP. I feel like I have ADD sometimes but yeah finishing can be tough when there's just so many other things out there making sure I take advantage of the right possibility at the right time. I'm sure it can be very tough for you guys because it's probably accented for you further with Ne.

It's always fun brainstorming and formulating a new idea or perspective but it's less fun once you have to put it to practical use and have worry about the realistic boundaries. I like to keep things open ended always allowing for more future input though this can be a crippling conceit sometimes. I think E7 is enneagram's version of Ne (and Se to a slightly lesser extent) but definitely right up the ally of dominant extroverted perceivers. There are far too many similarities between a 7 and ExxP to ignore when described by both typologies. Long term commitment has always been one of my weaknesses but at least I'm not in denial about it anymore.

 

[ZNP-TBA]

I'm still trying to figure out my enneagram and tritype so my experience has little meaning at this point, but i wouldn't confuse 7 with boredom. That's what it may appear on the surface, but for me, the "7" comes through in a deep fear of facing my harsh realities and history. What have I learned over the years of how to cope with that? Run. Literally and figuratively lol. So I'm out consuming all this mental distraction so that I can live in the moment and for a brief time, forget my problems and leave them behind me. Most likely why ENFPs and ENTPs for that matter, associate with 7, is because they have Ne as their dominant function, so they are already adept at playing with the world around them and feeding this insatiable appetite for knowledge the world contains. So, boredom may be one factor, but I feel it's really just a part of it. There is definitely something deeper beneath the surface that makes 7s so hyperactive in trying new things.

My first guess of your Enneagram would be either 7w6 or 4w?. I'd guess both are somewhere in your tritype. 7w6 tends to correlate fairly well with the ENFP's specific version of Ne while 7w8 seems to line up more with ENTPs. 7 core fear is perceiving pain and suffering either in ourselves or in general. It's like when we slow down the inertia of pain can knock us back which is why we have the constant need for motion. Enneagram states that the core fear of each type is as the center of their personality even if its buried and completely irrational.

 

[Forever]

I'm still trying to figure out my enneagram and tritype so my experience has little meaning at this point, but i wouldn't confuse 7 with boredom. That's what it may appear on the surface, but for me, the "7" comes through in a deep fear of facing my harsh realities and history. What have I learned over the years of how to cope with that? Run. Literally and figuratively lol. So I'm out consuming all this mental distraction so that I can live in the moment and for a brief time, forget my problems and leave them behind me. Most likely why ENFPs and ENTPs for that matter, associate with 7, is because they have Ne as their dominant function, so they are already adept at playing with the world around them and feeding this insatiable appetite for knowledge the world contains. So, boredom may be one factor, but I feel it's really just a part of it. There is definitely something deeper beneath the surface that makes 7s so hyperactive in trying new things.

Fear of outside and obtaining knowledge is very 5 in nature. 7's are afraid of introspecting really and want to completely absorb what's completely outside of them. It's amazing how they're related.

 

[Forever]

It's always fun brainstorming and formulating a new idea or perspective but it's less fun once you have to put it to practical use and have worry about the realistic boundaries. I like to keep things open ended always allowing for more future input though this can be a crippling conceit sometimes. I think E7 is enneagram's version of Ne (and Se to a slightly lesser extent) but definitely right up the ally of dominant extroverted perceivers. There are far too many similarities between a 7 and ExxP to ignore when described by both typologies. Long term commitment has always been one of my weaknesses but at least I'm not in denial about it anymore.

Even I am afraid of dating a bit because of the commitment aspect until I know she fits me like a glove haha. But good for you!

 

[RedAmazoneFriendZone]

Yeah big differences between ESFP and ENTP 7s ( though if they are the same enneatype I could see more similarities). For one ESFPs are much more focused on present reality than ENTPs. We suffer from being scatter-brained and useless abstraction while ESFPs seem more direct and to the point. I think ESFPs crave new experiences more than new ideas which is opposite for the ENTP.

I think both suffer with establishing long term commitments though. I dated an ESFP 7 a few years ago (amazingly it lasted almost 2 years) but we just as quickly became strangers as we became enamored with one and other.

As an ESFP I can seem very ENTJ because when I decide to fight I do fight. I can be proud and rebellious, NEVER cold-hearted.


I have never dated an ENTP but I can say ENTJ can be cold-hearted and even non-sense for an SP like me
I'm generally kind hearted with people who share the same values as me. If one of those values disappear in my partner or is lacking in my partner, I'll easily let him drop with no regrets.
And once I said NO I don't change my mind. So I can be stubborn like hell too. And I think it is a good thing

I had fights with ENTJ and ESTJ, otherwise I only had small fights (well all 9 have found them big fights).
When something is wrong in their point of view it's not enough "logical" or "pragmatical"
For me.....that really sucks ! No more possibilities to communicate in an intelligent way.

I think NP and SP are really able to understand me on the spot and it works both ways of course. It is a mutual understanding. With XNTP it seems to work too.
Maybe I have a problem with some J types and the way they communicate with me. I think I can feel easily rejected or unfairly treated with some of them.
Am I the only 7 NT or SP that feels this way ???

Like NP we do crave experiences. What could also happen to me : within a relationship I was feeling nothing but I still had fantasies with a man.
_Well NOW I TRY TO SAY STOP BEFORE "GOING TO HELL"_ Because I've realised it is insane.
The same with EXTJ. I must learn to say STOP and run away instead of provoking them and trying to have the last word over what
I feel as being some control or arrogance.

That was not only for pleasure, that was to discover myself. There is the adventure strike ! I must try TO KNOW MYSELF BETTER. Where other types could say NO immediately.
Sometimes it happened to me that I was having doubts and told my partner "I don't know if I wanna do it with you or with another man, but I must do it, it is important,
how can I know what I feel if I don't know my limits and don't try it ?! And ...maybe I'll die tomorrow so anyway, that is good to know where I stand before dying!"

The worst thing is that I'm really convincing (that is ego).
And there is another very bad thing : when a man is in love he does not have the power to say NO in such cases.
That is very sad.


And here we arrive on the borderline road full of adrenaline and .....sufferings.....:whacko:

 

[Roars]

Don't fret guys, just try and be present with your emotions, Dont run away from them bc they build up worse, Do something to make them better

 

[Avocado]

I'm still trying to figure out my enneagram and tritype so my experience has little meaning at this point, but i wouldn't confuse 7 with boredom. That's what it may appear on the surface, but for me, the "7" comes through in a deep fear of facing my harsh realities and history. What have I learned over the years of how to cope with that? Run. Literally and figuratively lol. So I'm out consuming all this mental distraction so that I can live in the moment and for a brief time, forget my problems and leave them behind me. Most likely why ENFPs and ENTPs for that matter, associate with 7, is because they have Ne as their dominant function, so they are already adept at playing with the world around them and feeding this insatiable appetite for knowledge the world contains. So, boredom may be one factor, but I feel it's really just a part of it. There is definitely something deeper beneath the surface that makes 7s so hyperactive in trying new things.

I budget out a little each month to try new things, but its never enough.

 

[Masokissed]

People are always laughing at 7s. They call us the entertainer and they laugh at us on the big screen and the little screen... But laughing isn't always hospitable. In real life, they think we're crazy and give us dirty looks for doing something that to them is outrageous. But to me, it's not outrageous enough. Sometimes the script is bad and the actor is good and 7s will tear that script up sometime in their lives.

 

[Dreamer]

Anyone ever try and figure their problems out? Sometimes I'm just too tired to keep avoiding my problems and want to give up. The moment that happens though, I fear, I would be unable to pull through from and lose myself forever. The mind can be an endless place.