You have scored 62.
What your scoring means
You have quite good self-esteem on the whole. But you sometimes fail to believe in yourself enough. Remember you are a special and unique person. Many people with your score feel confident in what they do for a living and get a lot of affirmation from that. It's important however, to feel good about who you are, not just about what you do. Have a think about this.
Does this mean you want to change that number? It's fine to be soft and passive and vulnerable at times but why do you only highlight these traits? Your post does, your signature does too. Is that all you want people to know about you? I doubt it. Maybe you should try to develop some strengths. But you have to open your mouth and stand up for yourself.
Agreed. 13 is unhealthy. If it's a mental condition, [MENTION=24978]INFPtheQuietOne[/MENTION] needs to get medication for it. I struggle with depression, so I understand how it and other similar diseases affect people. It's not fun and not healthy.
But still, I tried to deliberately get it out of curiosity, and you have to check every Always box in order to even get close. Here's the description:
You have scored 20.
What your scoring means
The chances are that you find life very difficult indeed. You may well have a number of failed relationships behind you. Perhaps you've had problems with anger, or jealousy that have caused a split with a partner. You may also have found that your working life has been extremely disappointing.
But you can change things. Read the 'self-esteem' article and try the various strategies outlined there – especially the one about listing 50 things and writing these characteristics out on cards, and carrying them with you.
If you do this – and some of the other suggested exercises – you should begin to see yourself in a new light. It will also help you to read the books listed at the end of the article.
You might also want to consider counseling because you would almost certainly benefit from having it. There is a form of therapy called cognitive behaviour therapy (CBT), which is very helpful for people with low self-esteem. And the good news is that in many areas of the UK, there is good, free provision of CBT on the NHS.
So ask your GP if he or she can refer you for some professional help.
Finally, many people with this kind of score are actually seriously depressed. Do you think this could apply to you? If you think it might, please discuss this with your doctor because treatments and help are available.