I have an odd theory about the ENFP/INTJ relationship. First, I believe a functioning romantic relationship could work...or maybe I romanticized this unintentionally w/e. Anyways, I believe MBTI is a foundation for personalities, most people recognize this as well. It's a very useful tool if you don't use it for black and white thinking purposes. I have met many of INTJS and ENFPS particularly in the same friend group. We all knew each other in real life, but we gravitated towards each other more due to social media common interests. I strongly believe that INTJS and ENFPS need to see each other on social media or some form of online social interaction to truly attract each other. Real life interactions I believe can work out as well, but lets be honest I think the reason we are both so attracted to each other is because of our minds and thoughts. cliche as that sounds, I'm trying to be blunt to move on with my point.
Also I tend to think of certain ENFP stereotypes and INTJ stereotypes, and how I've seen both personality types with three main categories of sub personalities? (obviously not their real personalities, I just do not know how to word myself) Oh god, I sound like an idiot. But I think this could make sense...
Before I go along with my listing, I want to say I did a major project on MBTI in my High School for almost two and a half years. A lot of people were severely interested, and would come to discuss types with me. Along with faults and positive aspects of MBTI.
ENFPs I've encountered more than once: The cute and nerdy disney lovin' theater kid who is always paranoid and rather obnoxious.
The cynical dark humored ENFP. Is fairly intelligent, but has ego problems trying to deny emotions. Usually attempts to be artistic.
The sort of content ENFP who is mellow, responsible career life/irresponsible emotional choices. Ends up losing themselves in stressful situations, sexual, yet moralized. the worse comes out in stressful situations.
INTJS I've encountered more than once: (first off the confidence is always there, even when they doubt themselves)
The obvious INTJ who does well in school, shows interests in power, very strong quiet confidence. is cynical doesn't care much about social interactions. Doesn't care about emotion development really, narrow minded in emotional development. Probably will be fine because of this trait, but will over all miss out. Has the true few friends.
The artistic INTJ that comes across as a well developed ISFP ( I SEE THIS OFTEN) Likes hardcore music/pop punk??? also rap. Loves using their appearance to fool people. Has a well developed feeling side, BUT REFUSES TO BELIEVE IT. Loves to view social media as a form of comedy/amusment. Cynical, but see's the light in the dark. Doesn't have a strong self esteem as other INTJs would.
The open minded mild tempered INTJ. Likes conversations about fantasies and emotions because they feel so intrigued by the thought process behind it. Has emotional development, but can clearly distinguish rational and emotional thoughts. obviously more rational, is not overwhelmed by much...but almost consumed by a neurotic boredom. Natural zen, but not spiritual what so ever. Is confused/sort of enraged by spirituality. But, is still way more open minded then other INTJS. Finds joy in nature/ sufficient living/ also technological advancement. Biggest downfall is not willing to understand the difference between a random feeling and a natural emotional reaction.
OKAY, OKAY. I GET IT. I know these aren't really gender neutral, and kind of a narrow minded perspective. Also probably coming off very stupid in a way. Keep in mind I am 18, and there are many more male ENFPs and female INTJs in the world now. Numbers have probably changed for popularity within types. I have met 4 true INTJs who are/were my close friends. Two of them were girls, and true to their types. I also interviewed a lot of people in my school. A LOT of people had questions. I am horrible with my grammar/wording. I apologize. Also keeping the thought flow. I tend to jump on the ADD train and forget to come off. The reason I did more descriptions for INTJ sub personalities is for them to see my irrational theory, a little bit better. For I feel like ENFPs are highly aware of the sub personalities. ONCE AGAIN IT IS A FOUNDATION VIEW POINT. I AM NOT SAYING THE SUB PERSONALITY STEREOTYPES ARE THE REAL PERSONALITY, BUT INSTEAD LIKE A FOUNDATION.
my main point: I feel as if INTJ and ENFPs do not have the initial text book attraction because they are at different stages of development. I actually do believe it is a close to perfect pairing. All the stereotypes I listed involve development of; the mental, physical and emotional self within the INTJ and ENFP. I believe the INTJ and ENFP all have these aspects of the stereotypes in their foundations. For the attraction to work, they have to have a similar part of their emotional/physical/mental self they're both working on. this is were alike wants do help attract opposites.
I'm not going to list which stereotype is the emotional, physical or mental self. That question is purely up to you and your opinion to answer.
I apologize if I come off like a scatter brain and completely inaccurate. I thought it was worth a shot discussing.
On a personal note: I have only met INTJ friends I have my ups and downs with them. I think the main issue is trust. The best positive aspect is immense respect/loyalty. Trust issues are hard to really get into. We trust each other, but we don't at the same time...and I think it has to do with ENFPs unintentional double standards. Sorry we don't have well developed thinking lol.
I've only been head over heels for one person. He was a very unhealthy ENFP. I was also very unhealthy at the time too, but in extreme denial.
I AM MORE POSITIVE THAN I SEEM, TRUST ME?
ok ya.