Enneagram Cliff game

[Elfboy]

What does effusive mean?

warm, engaging, somewhat flattering (think southern hospitality)

 

[Animal]

they may make better muses than spouses.

I have struggled with this for a long time.

I will share a tweet that I wrote recently, which was a huge revelation for me, and required a lot of work on myself to get there.

"I am more than an artist, muse, animal & dreamer. I am also a woman, human & friend. Now that I accept this, my heart cannot mislead me."


^ You touched on the heart of my deepest self-imposed struggle. (I also have chronic illness and life struggles, but I am referring to struggles within my psyche, enneagram and instinct related issues.) I have written many times before: I am a tornado, not a wife. I am a muse, not a wife. Etc. It is hard for very artistic, independently-minded folks, and apparently 4w5s, to come to terms with social expectations. But that doesn't mean we aren't human and can't love. It just takes the right kind of partner to understand this. And of course, it takes work on the part of both partners to self-improve and to improve together.

 

[á´…eparted]

Fuck: 2w1, 2w3
Marry: 7w6
Cliff: 4w5, 4w3

 

[Opal]

I have struggled with this for a long time.

I want to share with you a tweet that I wrote recently, which was a huge revelation for me, and required a lot of work on myself to get there.


"I am more than an artist, muse, animal & dreamer. I am also a woman, human & friend. Now that I accept this, my heart cannot mislead me."

I like it. I don't mean to pass judgment on all members of a given type or limit potential with expectation--we're dynamic beings with a lot of room and time for growth. That was sort of a bitter commentary on my part. (that said, I could go for a muse about now)

 

[Animal]

I like it. I don't mean to pass judgment on all members of a given type or limit potential with expectation--we're dynamic beings with a lot of room and time for growth. That was sort of a bitter commentary on my part. (that said, I could go for a muse about now)

In a sense you were right and I liked that you wrote that. It was the truth. No harm in stating truth based on experience. We all have our struggles and its interesting seeing that someone else observed it the same way I experienced it, but from the opposite angle.

if you met a 4w5 who inspired you and managed to deal with their inner turmoil without being a complete basketcase , I imagine that you wouldnt "judge" them based on the behavior of others. It's just, how often does anyone meet a person who is self aware and reasonable? hhahaa.

 

[Opal]

In a sense you were right and I liked that you wrote that. It was the truth. No harm in stating truth based on experience. We all have our struggles and its interesting seeing that someone else observed it the same way I experienced it, but from the opposite angle.

if you met a 4w5 who inspired you and managed to deal with their inner turmoil without being a complete basketcase , I imagine that you wouldnt "judge" them based on the behavior of others. It's just, how often does anyone meet a person who is self aware and reasonable? hhahaa.

Interesting, I can't really imagine the thought process from the opposite perspective, though I've tried. I'm tempted to withhold that I practice creative writing from the next 4w5.

I do take each new relationship as it comes, though. Type only very loosely indicates life experience and relationship potential. I'm still very fond of the 4w5 in question and consider it one of the most interesting E-types.

 

[Rasofy]

What does effusive mean?

too friendly

 

[Galena]

Huh, I guess I wasn't exact on the meaning of the word "effusive", taking it to mean more like goofiness/unreserved. But it kinda works.

Right, triads:

Gut:
Fornicate: 9w8
Espouse: 8w9
Jettison: 1w2

Head:
Lust: 7w8
Love: 6w5
Gravity: 5w6

Heart:
The Bed: 3w2
The Altar: 2w3
The Sheer Drop: 4w3 (incest is taboo for a reason)

 

[Flâneuse]

instinctual variants:
shag - sx/sp
marry - sp/sx
offspring (I can't really choose that, but whatever) - sp/so to minimize chances of a wild adolescence
buddy - so/sx
cliff - so/sp
shag and then throw off a cliff - sx/so

 

[grey_beard]

Screw: sx-dom; 8w7, 5w6, 3w2, 4w3, 2w3; 874, 854, 278.
Marry: sp-sx, sx-sp; 8w9,9w8,3w4; 835, 935, 872
Cliff: so-sp, sp-so; 6w5, 7w8, 612, 638, 648,629

[MENTION=5494]Amargith[/MENTION] --

IGNORE, apparently: 5w4 sx-sp

Full Disclosure: yeah, I *know* it wasn't an exhaustive list.

 

[five sounds]

F: 749 sx/sp
M: 964 sx/sp
K: 318 so/sx

 

[grey_beard]

To speak for myself, I'm not particularly unstable. I have been in the past, but I was aware enough to know that I was too unstable to be involved with anyone. Such is the benefit of realness: honesty with oneself. At this point in my life, my passions are expressed artistically, but my friendships and relationships are more stable.

That being said I'm not proposing that a 5w4sx should marry a 4w5sx. The idea of it struck me funny.

[MENTION=17911]Animal[/MENTION] --

5w4 sx and 4w5 sx -- My. God. They'd fuse within seconds.

That's either a divide-by-zero error or the Infinite Improbability Drive from The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy.

 

[OrderOfTheCaelifera]

I had it coming -- I only had myself to blaaame --

I'll catch you but you'll owe me one.

 

[Starry]

warm, engaging, somewhat flattering (think southern hospitality)

too friendly

haha thanks.


So if I were to say I'd fuck and marry all e-types...but might move all social doms to an isolated island old-school Australia style ... that's effusive right?

 

[Luv Deluxe]

Mate: 7, 8, 3, sx-dom
Marry: 5, 9, 4, sp-dom
Murder: 6, 1, 2, so-dom

So...apparently I have a problem with compliant types.

Oh, well. I'm not the marrying type, and I'd probably kill the Threes after the orgasms wore off, anyway.

 

[ndovjtjcaqidthi]

F: 1, 5, 7
M: 4, 2, 9
K: 3, 6, 8

 

[Rasofy]

haha thanks.


So if I were to say I'd fuck and marry all e-types...but might move all social doms to an isolated island old-school Australia style ... that's effusive right?

The first part got me very effusive, Starry....

The second part doesn't seem that friendly...

+ = effusive

(I guess you got it)

 

[Opal]

F: 1, 5, 7
M: 4, 2, 9
K: 3, 6, 8

Lol ew, you'd F a 5?

 

[ndovjtjcaqidthi]

Lol ew, you'd F a 5?

Smarts are hawt, man.

 

[Animal]

[MENTION=17911]Animal[/MENTION] --

5w4 sx and 4w5 sx -- My. God. They'd fuse within seconds.

That's either a divide-by-zero error or the Infinite Improbability Drive from The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy.

I dated a 5w4SX. It was great! We are still good friends. The dynamic between us was admittedly pretty incredible. ;P