Article on Introverts for Extroverts

[Natrushka]

An old one, but a good one.

Caring for Your Introvert

 

[rivercrow]

I've always been fond of The Merry Recluse.

Huh. Look at this collection!

Nonduality's issue dedicated to introversion and solitude.

 

[Usehername]

yeah this one is my fave LPO: Caring for Your Introvert

 

[Natrushka]

yeah this one is my fave LPO: Caring for Your Introvert

That's the same one I posted initially.

 

[rivercrow]

That's the same one I posted initially.

Details, shmetails.

 

[Natrushka]

No. (Do NT use the word "No" a lot? I seem to.) It was more a "Did you read the other posts?" comment.

 

[Nighthawk]

I have a small group of introverted friends with whom I go regularly to an establishment for a few beers. It has free WiFi, so we all bring our laptops. Sometimes we are all busy in our inner worlds and don't talk with each other for minutes at a time. You would be surprised how many people feel they need to make comments about us and to us.

What's wrong with you? Why do you bring your computers here? Why aren't you talking to each other? Why aren't you socializing?

We get that almost every time we are there, either from well-meaning regulars and wait staff whom we know ... or sometimes even complete strangers. Ironically, we are not the only ones doing that. There are introverts here and there with their laptops, quietly taking in the ambience and doing their own things.

I've been told by more than one extraverted friend that there is something "wrong" with me because I like to bring my laptop to our get-togethers. I am told that it is a time for socialization, and not to have my head down in a computer. I am told that people "need" to interact with others. Funny, I am never told that people "need" solitude to re-energize. I get into some pretty lively discussions with my extraverted friends on this topic. They see my passion for introversion as further proof that there is something "wrong" with me. After all, why would I get so upset over something as normal as socialization?

Another corollary is that many people assume that if I am on my laptop, that I am "working." Why are you working here? ... I get asked frequently. For some reason, they cannot comprehend that some people enjoy interacting with computers and the online world.

At any rate, I am comfortable in my own skin. Just sometimes I wish I could tell the extraverts ... Why are you so loud? Why can you not tolerate silence? You should try concentating for longer periods. ... and so forth. I would, but then again ... I am an introvert

 

[riel]

Damn, you're so right! My grandmother always pressure me to plunge in social groups and when I shifted to another college course, she asked me if I had friends in school(I only have a few close ones). I think she thinks I shifted because I don't have friends in that course which is a very shallow reason for shifting to another course.

Also, I don't like to repeat things I've said to people whatever that thing may be.

 

[riel]

I have a small group of introverted friends with whom I go regularly to an establishment for a few beers. It has free WiFi, so we all bring our laptops. Sometimes we are all busy in our inner worlds and don't talk with each other for minutes at a time. You would be surprised how many people feel they need to make comments about us and to us.

We have the same situation, only that it involves books and the library. I have a group of friends with 3 introverts(including me)and 1 extrovert. We would pick the genre we like and my introvert friends and I quietly read...until my extrovert friend would talk about what she'd read. I hate what she's doing, because she interrupted me as I was intent on reading and also, I don't like what she'd read.

 

[entropie]

Oh my, cant you Introverts not just get a planet or something, I am growing weary of your crazy claims

 

[Fluffywolf]

Oh my, cant you Introverts not just get a planet or something, I am growing weary of your crazy claims

We have our own planet, but darned extraverts keep trying to.. like.. reach out 'n shit! *waves fist*

 

[garbage]

Is this article satirical? I can't tell. The author does seem pretty stuck-up and full of himself, though.

Or, oh. I'm just misunderstanding him.


Dealing with introverts is pretty easy. You just.. give them space, don't expect them to not interrupt in conversations, and allow them the freedom to say their piece but don't expect them to talk constantly. Sorry.. you guys aren't exactly the mystical puzzles that these articles paint you to be.

They need articles on how introverts should deal with extroverts, with fruitful tips such as allowing us to steamroll over you in conversation and coming out with us every night of the week.

 

[Lady_X]

for real...what's the problem? introverts are easy to deal with...imo.

 

[garbage]

for real...what's the problem? introverts are easy to deal with...imo.

maybe we think we're dealing with them effectively but we're actually not, treating their lack of feedback as approval

 

[Lady_X]

haha...nah...they love us.

 

[wolfy]

maybe we think we're dealing with them effectively but we're actually not, treating their lack of feedback as approval

That can happen. I don't think I'm difficult to deal with though...hold on ...I went and checked with an extrovert and I'm easy to deal with.
Those articles crack me up I ain't that deep... I'm as deep as a paddling pool.
Just know when to leave me to my own devices.

 

[substitute]

I've read that in the past, and passed it onto others when I thought I was an introvert. I don't tend to see any things the other way round though, I think introverts are prone to thinking, since they're the minority, that they already do understand extraverts, when I find nothing could be further from the truth in most cases.

It's a bit like someone from Africa living in Europe and then assuming that, because the majority of people around him are European, he therefore understands them but they don't understand him, even though he doesn't have much to do with them and socialises mostly with the people in the Africans' clubs, or something.

maybe we think we're dealing with them effectively but we're actually not, treating their lack of feedback as approval

Au contraire, I usually read it as disapproval.

 

[substitute]

Funny, I am never told that people "need" solitude to re-energize.

Funny, I get that all the time, being an ENTP on course for the monastic life... I spend a lot of my time in introvert-dominated environments, and believe me, they can be JUST as inconsiderate and dismissive of extraverts' needs. I get "what's wrong with you? why can't you spend three entire days alone and isolated from the world without needing to talk over what you've thought about with someone?" I feel like saying "what's wrong with you? are you so arrogant that you think you can infallibly figure everything out in your head and never need to check it against the knowledge or experience of others, or test out what you theorize in the real world?"

 

[prplchknz]

Maybe I'm not a true introvert. Oh wait yes I am, I do need time alone, and I do need time to formulate thoughts. But I never go somewhere and ignore people, its like well if I wanted to be alone I would have just stayed home. I'm always willing to listen, I might fee exhausted if you talk to be for 30 minutes straight, but great then I don't have to talk about myself. I'm just saying, if you don't want to interact with people then don't, take time for yourself, I'll sometimes go somewhere and read and write, but my friends are never with me. I like my alone time, but I also enjoy my friends, even though at times a purposely let my phone die, don't log on to aim, or check face book for a few days. It's nothing personal just if I didn't do this perodically I'd rip your head off, and this isn't to say I'm not willing to meet new people I'm always willing.

 

[Unique]

"Extroverts therefore dominate public life. This is a pity. If we introverts ran the world, it would no doubt be a calmer, saner, more peaceful sort of place."

The point where I stopped reading, yeah thanks I'm insane right? Having a clear head has nothing to do with being E/I

So much for a how to guide for caring for an introvert

Seems like they have a different agenda

Fail.