I thought of a way to approach this and explain what it's like. I was just flicking channels and this song (which I happen to love) was playing on MTV:
To me this song exemplifies Fi thought and feeling processes. Gotye seems to me to be a IXFP based on his behaviour in interviews (and Kimbra, would have to be a EXFP), however his lyrics and performance of the song particularly demonstrate a Fi inner world - not just the way the people in the song think and feel, but in the way Gotye tries to evoke specific reactions in the listener. It's so conflicted, reflective, passionate, raw, contradictory, complex, deceptive, skeptical, confronting, self-aware, and so entirely immersed in the world of intense feeling tones.
The layered, contradictory nature of feeling is perhaps the most revealling aspect - not so much the fact that he feels contradictory emotions but just how aware of them he is, how forceful they are, and how willingly he tackles them and their implications.
The guy seems to be happy and relieved the relationship is over, but yet appears to be mourning the loss of it; he loved her and idealised her, yet felt desperately lonely at the same time; he's forgiving, and yet bitter; he's at peace with it, indifferent even, and yet incredibly hurt and angry.
The thing is, Gotye takes this even further by providing her point of view. He makes you feel sorry for the guy and wonder about the awful things she did to him, then undermines that belief and makes you doubt it. The girl makes it seem like he was distant, cryptic and blamed her for their problems. It makes you think back to the first verses and you see his feelings, and the likely external manifestation of them, in a new light. You begin to suspect he might have been the source of the problem.
But again Gotye takes it further. The chorus takes on new meaning this time round; now he seems to admit some blame, that he wasn't perfect, but yet he remains defiant; in spite of his mistakes she didn't need to treat him so badly afterward. And, "fair enough", the listener thinks. But
again Gotye challenges him. She sings back at him; after all
he had cut her off too, all through the relationship. At the end, you get a sense of pain, guilt and loss in both of them - it's a complete emotional journey within just a few minutes.
So I suppose what I'm trying to show is the layered and conflicting nature of those emotions. It can be like disappearing down a rabbit hole that gets deeper and more convoluted as you go. So you see why it can be so hard to express this - how can you communicate that complexity clearly and succinctly without compromising the very heart of it? And it gets even harder when there
literally doesn't seem to be a word that encompasses a very specific feeling you are experiencing.