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Do you guys ever notice yourselves becoming less internally energized, or unenthusiastic & kind of dry & barren-feeling inside if you go a while without being engaged with someone in a romantic / relationship-type way?
No, I wouldn't say it's like that. I've been single for over a year now and I wouldn't say my emotional state has changed all that much since when I was in a relationship a year ago. Of course there was a little hiccup when we broke up, but those bad feelings didn't last long. I function emotionally very much the same in a relationship as I do out of one.
But I do miss it and I do seek that kind of companionship that a relationship provides. I don't "yearn" for it, but when it works I truly enjoy it. But I'd rather be single than in a relationship with someone who brings a lot of drama and angst to the table (seems to be a common NT need) so that's why I tend to be so picky. Even if I feel very strongly for a person, my feelings of limerance are no indication that a relationship is the right direction to take with them.
I guess "romance" is a remote need in my ideal dating world. A relationship with someone should consist of "real," tangible feelings: everyday feelings. Comfort, the feeling you get while bantering with someone, having a great conversation with someone, being on the same wavelength as someone. It's about the company and the helping each other, being there for one another. What I find with some people is how much they want LOVE and PASSION and a SOULMATE and, honestly, I find those words to be meaningless...I'd even go so far as to say a turn-off.
I guess I'm very down-to-earth in that respect.