Forestgnome88
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Hello all, this is my first post! 
I don't know whether or not I am an INTJ or an INFJ....sometimes I get one when I take the test, sometimes another. Perhaps some of you have some ideas...
I took the MBTI for the first time when I was 12 or 13 and I got INTJ. I have always been very good at teaching myself languages, art, music, you name it. In school I was always good at math and science but I lost interest when I was in high school because I became obsessed with music and art. I have always loved reading and studying by myself and now in adulthood I am beginning to become more interested in web development, sound engineering/recording, etc. I believe that I could honestly teach myself anything and do a better job of it then if I went to school for it. I am a musician and am learning two new music software programs, am teaching myself how to use new equipment, etc. It is endlessly fascinating to me. I am always learning something.
As a musician I am very technical in what I do and music theory has always come very easily to me. Some musicians can just pick up an instrument and play without understanding what they're doing and I have never been able to do that. I have to have a detailed understanding of how something works before I can do anything with it. My brain is very methodical.
I am 27 and have never had an interest in dating anyone and have rejected pretty much every guy who has tried to date me because I have a very clear idea of what I'm looking for and I haven't met anyone who has those qualities yet. I would rather be alone than settle which I think is pretty uncommon for most people, especially women sadly. I have read that a lot of INTJ women spend long amounts of time being single because dating is annoying and a waste of time to them and men don't get them. That is pretty much how I feel. People are shocked that I care so little about guys but it's true! I care more about developing my career and making my little mark in the world.
I do have a strong feeling side though. I care a lot about inequality in society and trying to do something to change it. For example, I am a guitarist and am interested in teaching guitar to girls in order to improve their sense of self esteem as well as to help break down the gender divide in the music business which in my opinion perpetuates harmful stereotypes of what women are and aren't capable of. I don't like that very much
I am also interested in the plight of foster children and helping them reach their potential.
I have less than stellar social skills and people tend to not like me very much. I am much better at expressing myself in writing than in person. My social skills have gotten better but that is the biggest "flaw" if you will, in my personality. This is why I don't think I am an INFJ. Aren't INFJ's good at connecting with other people? It is nearly impossible for me to make friends. I don't feel a strong connection to most people. Men or women, it doesn't really matter. I have always had a difficult time relating to other people and their concerns. I have had to learn how to listen to others and be accepting of their limitations because that is not something I am naturally inclined to do. If I think about it though, I would want someone to do the same for me so I have become less judgmental over the years. I have also had to practice happy facial expressions that I force myself to use so that people will be able to relate to me more. It works!
I have a very low opinion of people who don't think for themselves and who follow the status quo without questioning it. I also have a quirky sense of humor and INTJ's are typically painted as being very serious, aren't they?
Anyhow, for anyone who has had a difficult time identifying their own type, what finally made you realize what you were? I think it would help me greatly in maximizing my strengths.
Thanks!
Forestgnome
I don't know whether or not I am an INTJ or an INFJ....sometimes I get one when I take the test, sometimes another. Perhaps some of you have some ideas...I took the MBTI for the first time when I was 12 or 13 and I got INTJ. I have always been very good at teaching myself languages, art, music, you name it. In school I was always good at math and science but I lost interest when I was in high school because I became obsessed with music and art. I have always loved reading and studying by myself and now in adulthood I am beginning to become more interested in web development, sound engineering/recording, etc. I believe that I could honestly teach myself anything and do a better job of it then if I went to school for it. I am a musician and am learning two new music software programs, am teaching myself how to use new equipment, etc. It is endlessly fascinating to me. I am always learning something.
As a musician I am very technical in what I do and music theory has always come very easily to me. Some musicians can just pick up an instrument and play without understanding what they're doing and I have never been able to do that. I have to have a detailed understanding of how something works before I can do anything with it. My brain is very methodical.
I am 27 and have never had an interest in dating anyone and have rejected pretty much every guy who has tried to date me because I have a very clear idea of what I'm looking for and I haven't met anyone who has those qualities yet. I would rather be alone than settle which I think is pretty uncommon for most people, especially women sadly. I have read that a lot of INTJ women spend long amounts of time being single because dating is annoying and a waste of time to them and men don't get them. That is pretty much how I feel. People are shocked that I care so little about guys but it's true! I care more about developing my career and making my little mark in the world.
I do have a strong feeling side though. I care a lot about inequality in society and trying to do something to change it. For example, I am a guitarist and am interested in teaching guitar to girls in order to improve their sense of self esteem as well as to help break down the gender divide in the music business which in my opinion perpetuates harmful stereotypes of what women are and aren't capable of. I don't like that very much
I am also interested in the plight of foster children and helping them reach their potential. I have less than stellar social skills and people tend to not like me very much. I am much better at expressing myself in writing than in person. My social skills have gotten better but that is the biggest "flaw" if you will, in my personality. This is why I don't think I am an INFJ. Aren't INFJ's good at connecting with other people? It is nearly impossible for me to make friends. I don't feel a strong connection to most people. Men or women, it doesn't really matter. I have always had a difficult time relating to other people and their concerns. I have had to learn how to listen to others and be accepting of their limitations because that is not something I am naturally inclined to do. If I think about it though, I would want someone to do the same for me so I have become less judgmental over the years. I have also had to practice happy facial expressions that I force myself to use so that people will be able to relate to me more. It works!
I have a very low opinion of people who don't think for themselves and who follow the status quo without questioning it. I also have a quirky sense of humor and INTJ's are typically painted as being very serious, aren't they?
Anyhow, for anyone who has had a difficult time identifying their own type, what finally made you realize what you were? I think it would help me greatly in maximizing my strengths.
Thanks!
Forestgnome
