cacaia
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Hello, all! I am new to this forum, and I've been reading up a few of your threads and feel so relieved I am not the only one confused about the feeling functions. My latest struggle is fi vs fe.
I always score really high on Fe, but I've been told I use Fi, actually. Even after looking at examples of people talking about fi and fe, and reading numerous explanations, posts, ad nauseum, I still feel like I don't quite get it.
My mom, who is an ISTJ, laughs when I try to delve deeper and deeper into the functions. She says the Myers Briggs test was supposed to help people get jobs which they were best suited for (true). However, I cannot help but to keep analyzing this, dissecting it to the barest of cores. It would really help if I knew what I was. It would definitely answer some questions which are now like voids.
But anyway, I diverge. My main question is this: After reading these paragraphs, would you say I use more fi or fe?
As a child, I was kind and loving to everyone. After playdates, I would insist a friend walk away from my house with one of my toys. The adults in the room had to find a way to hide the said toy behind them so I could be pacified thinking the toy was going home with my friend.
I loved school to the point of making my mom drive me to my school on Saturday to prove to me school was closed (and today I am a teacher haha).
My parents took me fishing only once. I caught the only fish, and, as my scientist mother approached to cut it open, I noticed it struggle, and felt horrible for it . "It's gonna die!" I screamed. "Put it back! Put it baaaaack!" almost if I and the fish were one and the same being.
Since I was very little, I felt sorry for chickens who were about to be slaughtered, and felt terrible about having to eat meat. Since the age of four I wanted to be vegetarian, so I wouldn't have to hurt any animals.
I grew up, always alone, with one or two really good friends, and I did not mind being alone for long hours. Even as a teenager, I would prefer to read my books and be left alone. I always loved intellectually stimulating talks, though I always felt I was never smart enough. While people were going to parties and getting wasted, I would curl up with a book or hang out with one or two friends.
In college it was the same, though I would party until about midnight, then go home and sleep. I have always been a morning person after all, and always preferred the company of animals over most people.
It wasn't until my thirties that I became interested in teaching, and had to overcome my fear of speaking in public. I found that children were great and since working at a school, I have felt the most extroverted I have ever been in my life. Though I like to socialize and talk to my colleagues, I often get tired of this, and need to retreat and be on my own so I can focus on my thoughts. I still care deeply for those who are underdogs, for animals who do not have a voice, and for children, who are vulnerable to adults and this unjust and ugly world. I hope that, by teaching them, I can inspire them to be better people as a whole generation, and my goal is to raise them to be more conscious of how they treat the environment and each other.
Ok, I think that's a lot of information.....what's the verdict???
Thanks in advance, everyone!
I always score really high on Fe, but I've been told I use Fi, actually. Even after looking at examples of people talking about fi and fe, and reading numerous explanations, posts, ad nauseum, I still feel like I don't quite get it.
My mom, who is an ISTJ, laughs when I try to delve deeper and deeper into the functions. She says the Myers Briggs test was supposed to help people get jobs which they were best suited for (true). However, I cannot help but to keep analyzing this, dissecting it to the barest of cores. It would really help if I knew what I was. It would definitely answer some questions which are now like voids.
But anyway, I diverge. My main question is this: After reading these paragraphs, would you say I use more fi or fe?
As a child, I was kind and loving to everyone. After playdates, I would insist a friend walk away from my house with one of my toys. The adults in the room had to find a way to hide the said toy behind them so I could be pacified thinking the toy was going home with my friend.
I loved school to the point of making my mom drive me to my school on Saturday to prove to me school was closed (and today I am a teacher haha).
My parents took me fishing only once. I caught the only fish, and, as my scientist mother approached to cut it open, I noticed it struggle, and felt horrible for it . "It's gonna die!" I screamed. "Put it back! Put it baaaaack!" almost if I and the fish were one and the same being.
Since I was very little, I felt sorry for chickens who were about to be slaughtered, and felt terrible about having to eat meat. Since the age of four I wanted to be vegetarian, so I wouldn't have to hurt any animals.
I grew up, always alone, with one or two really good friends, and I did not mind being alone for long hours. Even as a teenager, I would prefer to read my books and be left alone. I always loved intellectually stimulating talks, though I always felt I was never smart enough. While people were going to parties and getting wasted, I would curl up with a book or hang out with one or two friends.
In college it was the same, though I would party until about midnight, then go home and sleep. I have always been a morning person after all, and always preferred the company of animals over most people.
It wasn't until my thirties that I became interested in teaching, and had to overcome my fear of speaking in public. I found that children were great and since working at a school, I have felt the most extroverted I have ever been in my life. Though I like to socialize and talk to my colleagues, I often get tired of this, and need to retreat and be on my own so I can focus on my thoughts. I still care deeply for those who are underdogs, for animals who do not have a voice, and for children, who are vulnerable to adults and this unjust and ugly world. I hope that, by teaching them, I can inspire them to be better people as a whole generation, and my goal is to raise them to be more conscious of how they treat the environment and each other.
Ok, I think that's a lot of information.....what's the verdict???
Thanks in advance, everyone!
