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I think INTPs can give themselves the illusion that everything is a system to be figured out. That if we work at something from just the right angle, we'll crack the code, and figure out how everything works. This mindset serves us well in many areas, but it doesn't serve us very well in our interactions or in our growth as people. People, including ourselves, aren't problems to fix. It's exhausting to take on the world as a system we have the responsibility of streamlining. Never needing or asking for help or emotional support, because we seldom recognize that we need it. Hence the semi-regular breakdowns. I definitely have them every few years, and rarely see them coming. It's a lesson I have to learn and re-learn, but I'm getting better at realizing I can't do everything, and that it's okay to need help and to lean on others. It's even okay to talk about *gasp* feelings. I'm going to pretend I didn't just say that. :-D
Yes. This. Though this creates a seperate (though not completely unrelated to this topic) situation. Not many people understand this (your above statement) because of how 'unemotional' I am and so when I do struggle they believe that I'll find my way out of it... even though that is the very problem I'm having. I suppose I just need to give up that pride and ask for it, help that is. I guess my problem is finding that embarrasing .
It may be the feeling. "If I can't do what I'm suppose to be able to do best i.e. understanding and solving, then what can I do?" Hm, that sounds like an aspect of depression doesn't it?