For most of my life, ive had crushes very rarely, but when i did it was head over heels putting them on a pedastal in love/obsessed
I just got out of an awful relationship this year where i had originally idealized an ENTP and was then let down quite a bit.
I was talking to my ISTJ friend and he was telling me i have to just ask people out that i like a little bit rather than waiting around for that overwhelming feeling to come. He said that i'd grow to feel so deeply about them except that it would be genuine rather than all imagined as before.
I know he's right but i can't imagine myself asking out someone i dont feel that way about.
Any other idealists have the same problem? Help me!
I just got out of an awful relationship this year where i had originally idealized an ENTP and was then let down quite a bit.
I was talking to my ISTJ friend and he was telling me i have to just ask people out that i like a little bit rather than waiting around for that overwhelming feeling to come. He said that i'd grow to feel so deeply about them except that it would be genuine rather than all imagined as before.
I know he's right but i can't imagine myself asking out someone i dont feel that way about.
Any other idealists have the same problem? Help me!