Fe 1: I look for and identify group norms
5...yup, it gives me me a very good picture of how the group dynamics work as I can figure out their expectations.
Fe 2: I internalize cultural values and make them my own
3....I internalize cultural values in the sense that I aim to understand them much deeper, but, I rarely make them my own, and only so in a sense, where making it my own means doing the opposite to test out the many faces of those said cultural values. Thus,averaged out, means, 3ish.
Fe 2: I know what is appropriate behavior in a given culture or situation and act accordingly
3 (averaged out, see above Fe2)
Fe 3: Because i consider it important I establish and build relationships with other people
4.5....I often look for their 'angle'...and am of the belief that you never know when some unlikely person may be of assistance. Hence, it's important for me to build such relationships, and has been so in the past, in manuvering myself through this world, with much ease and not much effort. It's not 1-way as I fully would accept any assitance they ask of me, if I could provide.
Fe 4: I build relationships by disclosing things about myself
4....I am very conscious of the audience I'm speaking to, and I will disclose very different aspects of myself to others, depending on which angle I think is best in cutting through BS and forming bonds with them, and their trust.
Fe 5: In order to maintain or establish relationships with other people I act to meet their needs
5...Yup, if it doesn't take away anything substantial of myself/hinder me, I will never not answer to a need of another, if it's within my means to fulfill it.
Fe 6: I organize the external world to support group harmony
2...sometimes, if I feel like group harmony is crucial, most times, I like to fuck around with it.
Fe 7: I assess other peoples emotional states by watching their behavior
5...and also what they hesitate to exhibit are even more telling, that little pause and stop.
Fe 8: I will do just about anything to maintain relationships with others who matter to me even if this creates internal tension for me.
3....I will push my 'internal tension' in order to understand it more by poking at it, and if that means doing whatever to maintain relationships, yes, but, I can't figure out how this above situation would really work, as someone who truly cares for me, would have a goal that shouldn't be destructive to my personal self, and if so, I would question the relationship before anything else.
Fe 9: I judge my own and other peoples behavior according to cultural norms
0...NO! A thousand times no. Not judgement, but, I do rationalize that the person did X maybe out of cultural expectations, but, not judge, more as inferring one of the many perspectives of why a person may do what they do.
Fe 10: I attempt to educate others as to the appropriate behaviors that will help them fit in.
2.....only if I see a logic/benefit to fitting in, in the given context, or, if they expect that same appropriate behaviour of others, but, fail to give it themselves, then I will point out the unfairness of their expectations.
36.5/55 = 66%